Its not your fault of the incontinence.

I agree with Mike, it is a medical condition where you have limited control,people have to wear for example hearing aids,glasses,use canes, its another medical aid for us to cope.Never put yourself down,true friends\mates will always love and respect you .

Thank you and well said Wetr; As I get older my friends and also other random travellers I meet & who notice the protection I carry truely respect me for my disability. But when I was younger, a teenager, it wasn't so easy. That said I think it IS easier to live with when it has affected you all your life.

I really don't think you need to be ashamed. Yes, needing to rely on a diaper to keep you dry is not the perfect situation but you are getting support in all the right places. Your fiancé loves you and doesn't get bothered by it. Like others have said, its just something you need for a disability like a cane or glasses. Soon it will be just another garment you put on when getting dressed. I am not a woman, but I cant see it being much different than a woman's time of month when she uses protection for that. I hope that comment does not offend any women here, it was not intended to.

I wish I could give you an answer your looking for as I'm also struggling to come to terms having to wear a diaper, but I can tell you I understand how you fell and how it effects you. I know you feel frustrated and humiliated as I do to. But I can also say, your not alone, and that the short time I've been on this forum (about 2 weeks) I've had support from others here and theyre helping me trying to think differently and come to terms with it.
It helps to share your feelings with others like us who can appreciate what your going through. I spoke to no one (other than my doctor) before, and it's been a relief being able to open up about this here, and it would be nice to chat if you wish to.

I have found that the more I treat it as a problem, the more of a problem it becomes. I only have to wear at night time because of bedwetting which began nearly 7 years ago. My wife has been mostly supportive during this time. When I try to hide my diapers and act all discreet about them, it actually makes them more of an encumberance; however if I simply act as if it is the normal thing to wear, it actually de-emphasizes them. I used to get ready in the bathroom and then try to almost sneak straight into bed, and while it helped me cope with self image issues, it actually put a barrier between my wife and myself emotionally as well is in our communication. She knew I was embarrassed and so it led to an ackward silence because neither of us knew what to say. More recently I will walk around the house after getting ready for bed, or even sit and watch something on tv in just a diaper and t-shirt and somehow just acting normal makes a difficult situation seem normal for both my wife and I. Was it tough at first, you bet. Since I've decided to be open and matter of fact about it, it's no longer an issue with either of us. All of this is to say don't treat it as a big deal, something outside of the ordinary. Don't try to hide it as if there is something wrong about you or your situation. When we act differently it only emphasizes that very thing we feel ashamed of or stigmatized for.

I've heard it can happen with pregnancy and hopefully it will be over afterwards. Think about the baby coming into your life, soon enough you'll be changing their diapers and probably not your own. Good luck.

Thanks guys you all have made me feel much better