I think that for most people, the transition is the hardest part. At some point, it just becomes second nature.

I agree with interested. Acceptance is the hardest part. Once you do it becomes a natural part of your dressing routine. It made it easier when I put my underwear away and put diapers in their place. During the day I started carrying a small backpack with diaper supplies. No one suspects anything. My friends and family know but it isn't a big deal. Sometimes wearing a diaper is convenient. When you can't find or there isn't a bath room...Well, you brought your own. LOL Don't let it get you down.

Like it's already been said, once accepted, it is second nature. My diapers are my underwear. I started needing them back in 2008 and I don't let them stop me from living. Only those that are near know about it, no one else needs to know. The biggest issue is that many people are taught diapers are for babies and really old people and we all know that isn't true. Even though I don't like their products for me, I am glad that Depend is putting more and more awareness out there and showing that anyone at any age may need protection.

Having had bladders problems for many years following a spinal injury, what started as just a bed wetting problem has worsened as the issues with my spine have developed and I am now wearing nappies 24/7. Changing at work or when out and about is the worst bit as no-one knows why I choose to use the Disabled facilities. I don't even consider myself disabled, I just need the space...and the bin! In fact in one supermarket I was subjected to a verbal onslaught from an elderly couple. I offered to show them my 'disability' and the scars. Carrying a spare nappy and changing when visiting friends is also very difficult. What has also helped is that the design and performance of adult nappies continues to improve and they are now so much less bulky and obvious. I generally don't give it a second thought anymore.

Life is not easy and wearing a diaper as an able bodied adult is tough and when you are battling depression it can make it all that much worse.I have apartner that is understanding and loves me more than I could have ever imagined and with that all the rest is not as big a deal as it actually is. We all have to accept things in life and finding a way to accept/deal with it is the true puzzel but it can be done we just need to seek help in doing this!! Help is out there we just need to be willing to accept it and try to move forward.

It sounds like you have a great partner who helps you through it. That's one of the most important things in dealing with incontinence. Having a safe space.

My daughter asked me this question after my knee replacement when she was helping me - how long do you think you will have this problem? I said for the rest of my life unless the doctor can find the right medication. It isn't something we can snap our fingers and be over. I don't want to have the surgery the doctor mentioned because sometimes it doesn't work plus I am on blood thinners and don't want to have the battery changed like I would a pacemaker if I had one and there are dangers with the surgery. I have been told I have an overactive bladder. I have UTI's a lot and that is the only time I have the problem in the day time. Mine is at night so I have to use bed pads on the bed and underwear XL Kroger brand. I probably need diapers instead if I could find some that fit.

For me, once I decided to wear diapers 24/7 it took a huge amount of stress out of my life. I am no longer wondering where the bathrooms are located in the mall or stores, where is the next rest stop when on a car trip and not getting up to go to the bathroom multiple times during the night! I think wondering if people could tell if I was wearing a diaper was an issue at first, but now I don't even think about it.

Hi,
I'm a 48yr old guy and have been suffering with bed wetting for 6 months now. It's not the first time this has happened but this is by far the longest.
I now wear a nappy every night which allows me to get a good nights sleep but I'm so worried this will continue to daytime issues as well.
At the moment I don't need protection during the day but am getting 'spots' on my underwear and concerned my paranoia will become a self fulfilling prophecy. I don't want to begin wearing anything during the day for that reason.
Your post seems to reflect similar circumstances to myself. May I ask how your bed wetting started, and how it progressed into daytime incontinence?
Thank you.

My bedwetting started again out of the blue and is caused by diabetic related problems. I have diabetic neuropathy in the area that controls my bladder and this cannot be cured. Not very long after my night time problems started I noticed my under wear was stained and damp by the end of the day. Gradually this increased to the point where day time protection was needed. I now wear incontinence slips or pads all the time and have very little bladder control. Have you seen a doctor or urologist to determine the cause of your bedwetting. If I hadn't gone to the Doctors I would never have found out I was diabetic.

Thank you for replying. I have been to the doctors in the past when I've had bouts of night wetting and again about a month after this started six or so months ago and amongst other things I was checked for diabetes which came back clear for me.
During my childhood I suffered bed wetting on and off and that's continued, although in general much improved, through most of my life and I do I accept this is part of my life as I've grown up with it. When I have suffered bouts of it lasting several weeks (rather than the odd day now and then) is when I've been struggling with stress or anxiety and that is what the bedwetting has been associated with - stress.
I am struggling with stress again, but the bed wetting this time has been going on for months with very few dry nights. For the first time I am regularly using protection and feel dependent on it which I worry will keep me in them, and add the slight damp spots I have on my underwear during the day is worrying me it may increase into daytime issues as well.
It is nice having read these posts to have diabetes discounted and will try to stop worrying so much as I know it can become a self fulfilled prophecy, but just talking with others with similar problems really does help and realise I'm not the only one with this.
Thank you again for taking the time to reply to me.

You are far\ from the only one. I have accepted my incontinence and need for nappies and just get on with life. After a while it just becomes a way of life and no big deal.

I don’t have to wear nappies all the time mainly for bed odd times in the daytime but I have got use to wearing nappies now and even like them if I don’t have one on for a while I miss wearing them strange I know I don’t know if it’s the bulk between the legs the feel of the leg elastics the soft plastic crinkly backing?? There is something oddly comforting about them!!

My condition slowly progressed to the point. That I needed to wear diapers. I had 24 years to see it coming. I have needed full time care for quite awhile now. Along with all the other indignities of that. Is the need to wear a diaper for complete loss of bladder & bowel control.

Its depressing. Its embarrassing. I was watching some comedian joke about it last night on tv. I wonder how He would feel wearing a diaper? Wetting yourself. Or dosed up on antibiotics because You have a bad uti for the 3rd time in 3 months. And you are stuck at home in bed. Cause the antibiotics have wreaked havoc on your bowels. And You are having bad pooping accidents in your bed.