Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group
The pressures of sex from peers, the media and culture can be overwhelming, but you are in total control of your body and celibacy is a choice that many are making. Find sanctuary with people who are choosing to abstain without fear of judgment.
I am a 26 year old male and I just joined this website because I need someone to talk to. I am a virgin and I feel that I am am outcast because of that. So last night was the first time I made out with a girl. We began to fool around and I was about to have sex be i could not do it. It just didn't feel right. Am I weird for feeling guilty for fooling around with her? It was the first time with a woman like that and I just don't know what to think? Please help
You are feeling the way you do because you are allowing others to influence your emotions. You are not an outcast, anymore than I am because I am celibate.
That you are calling yourself that is the issue here. You are simply doing something different than the norm. If it did not feel right, then it was wise not to follow through with it.
Whenever we do not feel right about something, that's sometimes a sign that we are doing something against our principles. Perhaps asking yourself exactly why it did not feel right, no matter what the answer may be, it often the recommended course of action.
While sex is a normal part of life and it should not be source of shame, it should also be treated seriously and with discernment, just as we would treat driving a car with responsibility. It is not a pastime or part of a recreation regiment.
What I am basically saying is that if you waited this long to have sex, why then can you not wait until you find a woman worthy of your time, instead of finding one to fool around with?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, it is rare in this day and age, therefore keep it. You can only lose your virginity once, make it count.
Wolf
Long story short, worst decision of my life, and losing your virginity before your time can lead to years of hell and misunderstanding as a whole.
My situation was I wasn't open about my virginity with the girl I lost it to, she had been sexually active for years, had learned and had a healthy view of sex, I did not, and said I couldn't perform, she gave me alcohol, when it is all said and done the whole experience was humiliating.
I had it coming to me though, I didn't treat women right before hand, even as a virgin, so it was meant to be. The truth is if you don't want to do anything you don't have to, no matter what anyone else or society says.
You've got to know yourself first before you can give yourself to someone, I don't think it's sex or love when someone has to take to feel gratified, if it feels weird it's probably not what you want.
http://banjohollow.wordpress.com/2013/06/16/on-semen-retention/
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fUspLVStPbk