Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group
The pressures of sex from peers, the media and culture can be overwhelming, but you are in total control of your body and celibacy is a choice that many are making. Find sanctuary with people who are choosing to abstain without fear of judgment.
There is this guy I just started having sex with. I don't want to and I always say no but he keeps making me feel guilty until I give in. Like he will get angry and roll over and not cuddle me. or he will talk about all that he does for me (taking me out) and i its mean that i dont want to give him pleasure in return. so i feel bad for "being mean" and i let him have sex with me. I always feel bad afterwards especially since he made me break my vow to God to be celibate when I didnt even want to have sex with him in the first place.
Now I dont know what to tell him. I don't want to tell him my personal/spiritual journey because that is not of his business and he wont understand. Telling him I just don't feel like it and don't want to only makes him keep messing with me until I give in. If I tell him I just want to be abstinent Im pretty sure that will just make him want me more and see if he can break my vow.
What should I do?
Now I dont know what to tell him. I don't want to tell him my personal/spiritual journey because that is not of his business and he wont understand. Telling him I just don't feel like it and don't want to only makes him keep messing with me until I give in. If I tell him I just want to be abstinent Im pretty sure that will just make him want me more and see if he can break my vow.
What should I do?
Your body is not something to be used by some self centered jerk. If you are trying to have a spiritual journey you need someone of similar values and beliefs. Surround yourself with likeminded people. It is not always easy. Sometimes you have to wait.
Remember one thing when dealing with men. About 9.75 times out of 10 they want one thing and they will tell you ANYTHING to get what they want. When thiings go wrong in relationships women suffer more than men. He will have all the fun and you will pick up the consequences. "Raise your standards"!!! Raise your standards for who you allow in your life.
ASAP.