Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group
The pressures of sex from peers, the media and culture can be overwhelming, but you are in total control of your body and celibacy is a choice that many are making. Find sanctuary with people who are choosing to abstain without fear of judgment.
My boyfriend and I are wanting to save sex for marriage. However, whenever we make out, we constantly take things a step further. I've never been in a relationship before, so this is all very new and overwhelming for me. He, however, has dated other girls for no less than two years each and never had sex with them. But he also never proposed or talked marriage with them. We've been dating for two months and I'm scared I'm not gonna make it. I'm scared I'll make a mistake or hurt him or something. What should I do?
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It's National Doughnut Day!Which three would you like? (never mind the calories, fat, or sugar content; just go with what you would pick if none of that mattered and whatever health issues you might have that would keep you from eating one in real life can be cast aside for this exercise as well... have at it!)
This predicament is quite simple to resolve, do not put yourself in a situation where you would be tempted. So no more making out, no more taking things further, period.
When we make a commitment to ourselves, we need to honor it no matter the circumstances. Breaking our word to ourselves has serious consequences in the long run that could easily be avoided by simply sticking to our word.
And let us say, that while we make it clear that we have erred and then we communicate this error to our partner and the reception is less than expected. The conclusion would be to terminate it because said partner is not respectful of our decision
Take me for instance, I have been celibate since 1998 and trust me when I tell you, I have been hit on, propositioned more times than I have fingers and toes left, yet not one has been able to get me to break my word to myself, why? That is because I know that if I do, I will have to deal with the consequences and believe me, no one is worth that.
If I were you, I would be concerned with hurting myself, after all I will have to sleep with the consequences when all.I had to do is say No.
Hope this helps.
Wolf