Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group
The pressures of sex from peers, the media and culture can be overwhelming, but you are in total control of your body and celibacy is a choice that many are making. Find sanctuary with people who are choosing to abstain without fear of judgment.
Greetings, i've been seeking some way to be intuned towards myself without the need of sexual intercourse, there been times when its been easier than others, i've realized in most of my sexual practices its been to validate something i thought was missing within,, i know for me sex had a healing comfort so i thought, religion made me feel guilty society made me feel dirty, i didn't know from one minute to next whose voice i was hearing so i thought abstinence would bring clarity, learning the difference in being my sensual normal self an partaking in intercourse has been trying, whatever decision i make i want it to be authentic for me without the emotional bullying of other institutions, but mostly i wanna connect with someone that feeds my soul so i'm not relying on physical intimacy to create fulfillment,
I see you've done the necessary work to get in touch with the so called YOU as opposed to you (your mind).
The way to tell the difference between YOU and the you (mind) is to see how you feel when you think about having sex and try to trace it back to where that feeling comes from and if that idea instills fear or worry, it is not from YOU but from the mind, ego as it were.
Now, to connect with someone who feeds your soul, that is a tall order because most out there are not in touch with who they really are because let's face it we are not taught to culture that aspect of ourselves, so perhaps by developing who YOU really are underneath all those societal layers, you may attract someone like yourself.
Hope this helps,
Wolf (celibate since 1998)