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My partner and I have been together 2 years. A bit over a yr into the relationship he confessed he did look at porn (he had told me he didn't with emphasis) & only told me after I guilted him into it with 'how he's the best boy in the world for not looking at it.ANYWAY!
He was right into it about a year before we met and I only noticed 1 poster of a chick in his room when we met which he soon took down on my request. I feel he's honouring me by not looking at it anymore - but I can't shake the feelings of betrayal or the fear that he could be lying to me again.
If he was looking at it I would break up with him because I am passionate about purity and I am very sensitive to lust, I abhor it and am purely disgusted at porn (male/female alike) because of many reasons. I also believe in chastity ..
Now... He has watched very suggestive movies & the like & share a lot of rude jokes with his mates BUt The main thing is that we are trying to abstain from sexual things only I'm worried he's doing this because he's looking at porn.
I couldn't see it coming that he was looking at porn before when I wasn't around.
I'm sure there's others who've experienced this & it's really torn them too if they're like me? I just found a vid on his facebook of a woman stripping practically naked.. only it's a joke short film and is meant to be funny at the end (kind of).
Should I freak out like I kinda am?
He was right into it about a year before we met and I only noticed 1 poster of a chick in his room when we met which he soon took down on my request. I feel he's honouring me by not looking at it anymore - but I can't shake the feelings of betrayal or the fear that he could be lying to me again.
If he was looking at it I would break up with him because I am passionate about purity and I am very sensitive to lust, I abhor it and am purely disgusted at porn (male/female alike) because of many reasons. I also believe in chastity ..
Now... He has watched very suggestive movies & the like & share a lot of rude jokes with his mates BUt The main thing is that we are trying to abstain from sexual things only I'm worried he's doing this because he's looking at porn.
I couldn't see it coming that he was looking at porn before when I wasn't around.
I'm sure there's others who've experienced this & it's really torn them too if they're like me? I just found a vid on his facebook of a woman stripping practically naked.. only it's a joke short film and is meant to be funny at the end (kind of).
Should I freak out like I kinda am?
personally, i don't date guys who have posters with hot chicks in their room because if 1. he wants me to look like that, then forget it and 2. who am i to tell him to take it down? I'd rather him take it down because he wants to, not because i want it down. i'm not trying to tell you you're a dumb ass or anything, but that is just what i am like...
also, i wouldn't get too worried about things like this. its not worth it
I was fully unaware of this lurking porn desire ya know?
OK SO Apparently someone else posted this video on his facebook of a girl stripping prac naked& I figured he'd know cos he checks facebook very often.. but he told me he didnt know it was there and gave me his password to delete it but now he's very pissed off at me it seems for asking him i guess!
Fact is i've given him a second chance after I've known he's looked at porn but it's not easy and i don't know if i'll ever be the same again in trusting him in that way...
My partner is now angry at me for bringing it up - can't win either way it seems!