Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group
The pressures of sex from peers, the media and culture can be overwhelming, but you are in total control of your body and celibacy is a choice that many are making. Find sanctuary with people who are choosing to abstain without fear of judgment.
Heyy,
so I am 16 and I am sexually active. I have been for 3 years now. I lost my virginity at a young age and because of it I saw nothing wrong with continuing to be sexually active.
About a year ago I had gained myself a reputation as being the school slut. I was proud at first, but then began to see how it was affecting my everyday life. It took my first true love and my new found maturity to realize this was not how I wanted to be seen. I thought it was great all the attention I was getting from guys, but now I realize what good is it if it's only because they expect sex from you?
I took in my opinion too many drunken parties and nights spent in stranger's cars for me to realize it, but I'm glad I did. This is why I would like to become a born again virgin and restore my virginity.. Spiritually of course. This is something I would like to take upon myself to achieve, and I think the concept is to simply ask god for his forgiveness of my sins (premarital sex). If anyone knows anything further on the subject, or has any words of advice, I am more than happy to hear them. I would like as much support as I can get because it won't be easy, so if you can, please help.
Thanks :)
so I am 16 and I am sexually active. I have been for 3 years now. I lost my virginity at a young age and because of it I saw nothing wrong with continuing to be sexually active.
About a year ago I had gained myself a reputation as being the school slut. I was proud at first, but then began to see how it was affecting my everyday life. It took my first true love and my new found maturity to realize this was not how I wanted to be seen. I thought it was great all the attention I was getting from guys, but now I realize what good is it if it's only because they expect sex from you?
I took in my opinion too many drunken parties and nights spent in stranger's cars for me to realize it, but I'm glad I did. This is why I would like to become a born again virgin and restore my virginity.. Spiritually of course. This is something I would like to take upon myself to achieve, and I think the concept is to simply ask god for his forgiveness of my sins (premarital sex). If anyone knows anything further on the subject, or has any words of advice, I am more than happy to hear them. I would like as much support as I can get because it won't be easy, so if you can, please help.
Thanks :)
1. no i did not believe in god at the time. i am still not sure if i believe in god, but i do believe in a superior power or being. growing up, my parents always tried to give the best of everything to me and i truely appreciate all that they have done for me. especially financially. they are good parents, although i cant confide in them emotionally for most things. that is the one thing i regret. they have always been there for me physically and financially, but not emotionally. they dont even know that i have been sexually active for the past 3 years. i believe that the question you are asking is why did i loose my virginity? i was going through a lot emotionally at the time and like i said, i could not confide to my parents about it. i had gotten into a different crowd in school at the time too. i was doing drugs and hanging around older people. when i actually lost my virginity it was a one night stand, i was 13 and the guy i was with was 18 at the time. i dont blame my actions on anyone but myself, but i do think that the group of people i was around at the time influenced some of my decisions. i hope that answered your question.
2. like i said, i did not believe in god at the time. i did know that premarital sex was a sin however. but growing up, my mother had told me that sex was normal, and that it was not a sin in her eyes. therefore since i didnt believe in god directly, and i was not forced to view sex as a sin, i saw nothing wrong with engaging in sexual activity. i do want to start over again and be able to abstain from sex. i am not sure about waiting until marriage, but i do want to wait until i find the right person whom i would like to start over with and loose my "virginity" to.
i continued it for the pleasure of it, and because yes i did enjoy the attention i was getting from putting out.
3. yes i would like to find a prince charming, but realistically i dont think i will just yet. what i would like to get out of this is more for myself than anyone else. i just wish to start over and at least be able to respect myself they way i want others to respect me ultimately. i would also hope that others would see me differently, and take me more seriously and respect me. i have found this problem mostly in school and social groups, and i hope that with time people will see that i will change, and that they will respect me for my decision in doing so. i would like to expect acceptance, but primarily from myself not others.. i understand that will come with time.
as for your last question, i would like to say that it was because i was cautious and used protection, but that was not always true. for the most part, it was protected sex. even the guys i was with realize that they do not want children just yet. but i will say that the plan b / morning after pill did come in handy several times. even the local pharmacist got to know me because of it. thankfully i never did get pregnant because i was not totally immature and i took some precautions, and now i dont plan having to worry about becoming pregnant for some time to come.
i hope i answered your questions. if there is anything else you would like to ask, i would be glad to answer. and thank you for asking these questions, for they made me realize some things about myself that i was avoiding or didnt completely realize about myself.
thanks :)