I'm 19 and still a virgin myself. I've found good friends and being active can calm down your feelings, but it's true, it's tough to fight. The best way is to wait like you're doing for a guy who will wait for you and not ruin yourself to someone who like you said would just run off. Talking to people helps especially if they're in the same situation, so I can be your friend and help you out with those feelings. Masturbation is always an option, but I find it too lonely to do all the time, so the best bet is to just wait it out, and hope your perfect future husband strolls on by.

Thank you, and I'm really glad to be able to hear all that from a GUY :) It's reassuring that all men today aren't the same, with only one thing on their mind. As far as the masturbation, I think it's perfectly fine and healthy for some people, but every time I think about doing it, I feel weird. I just don't think it's for me. And the whole "perfect future husband" thing, I don't think it's that easy, especially in the town I'm in. I just wish I could find somebody that shares the same interests as me and is fine with just watching a movie and cuddling lol My standards aren't high, but I suppose they are for most of the guys in town. I just hate it when people are so shallow, and can't accept others with their flaws. They're too busy looking on the outside.

i doubt there is only one other teenager in here. SPEAK UP, PEOPLE.

I am going to be an 18 year old virgin this upcoming monday, and I am happy about it. I don't think, however, I will wait till marriage. I do want to wait for someone I am in love with. We'll see how things pan out I guess. I understand completely about the whole guy/school thing, i see a lot of it where I go. Also at my work. i have no idea how to calm these feelings down either. But i seem to manage. =)

I am 19 years old and I am a virgin. I plan to stay that way until I am married. Honestly, I have had people make hurtful comments about it, but at the end of the day its a decision I made and I am happy about it. I agree with you, if a guy truly loves you then he will respect you and wait until your married to have sex. Being abstinent has saved me from being with some hurtful guys. It has opened my eyes to the fact there are plenty of guys who just want to have sex and then leave you for the next girl. Its hard and there are alot of pressures around us, but if waiting until marriage is important to you then you will get past the pressure. Good luck and if you ever want to talk just message me! :)

I'm 18, turning 19 soon, and still a virgin. I plan on waiting until marriage as well. I live in New York, relatively near the city, so a LOT of people here live life in the fast lane. So I do sometimes wonder if I should just do it and make my life easier. It's a struggle, but I am very confident in my decision.

I was a virgin until age 23. I don't recommend it.

There are few good reasons to be celibate, and many bad ones.

I am 20 and a virgin... I hate it but there is something proud about it too.

I was a virgin until I was 21 and I wish I had waited until I found the right person. Frankly, I think waiting has more merits than not.

If I had waited, I would have not given in to the first one that came along. It's always the pressure of others that causes one to break one's commitment to oneself.

I, for one highly recommend waiting. Get to know yourself and what your likes and dislikes are, what you are willing to endure or not. I've been celibate for ten years and I love it.

Sure, there are times, very few mind you when I think about breaking my celibacy but when I remember all I had to put up with and give up, such as time for myself and other nifty goodies, I remain on my resolve.

Mind you, I did this for myself and I have not looked back one iota. As I told a friend of mine, I frankly do not see a reason why I should have a relationship, I do better alone. I even have my crock pot on three settings: low, high and who needs a woman.

I frankly never bought into the "you need someone else to be happy" mindset.

I have always been very independent so I personally do better alone. It was not easy, at first but once I erased that idiotic programming that said that I would never been happy alone, that I needed someone else, and looked at the ever increasing benefits of being celibate, it ceased to be a struggle. It did not happen overnight but it eventually stopped being an issue.

My two cents,
Wolf

Not really a teen anymore, 21 year old virgin here. Not sure what advice I can give a girl, but as a guy it's masturbate masturbate masturbate. lol

Im a PROUD V-Card owner and im 17! lol

omg! that's my exact situation.. I'm 18 too and haven't even kissed a guy either. But I think it should be something you should be proud of instead of disappointed about. I used to and sometimes still feel like a loser because I haven't, but I think in the long run, when you meet a guy who is mature, he will appreciate that you haven't. Guys our age don't care about our feelings or even about us, they only have one thing on their mind. My cousin, she was with her boyfriend 4 months. They had sex, and the next day he broke up with her.
My point is right now you might feel "behind" everyone else, or like prude, but guys who judge you for that aren't worth the trouble. Wait for a guy who likes you no matter what tings you have or haven't done.

I didn't have sex until I was 23. I was just concerned with other things. I didn't care about being popular or letting everyone know my business. I had a ton of friends and kept busy with the sports I played and the hobbies I was into. If people were concerned with my sex life, they either weren't a friend or completely bored! When I was 23 I had sex with my first "real" boyfriend and don't regret it at all. I felt I was actually old enough to make a decision like that. As a teenager, I felt I wasn't mature enough to do or worry about things like that. Anyway, No regrets...good motto! Don't let other teens make you feel less because you don't want sex right now. I am 29, and work at a skateboard shop. I am around teenage boys ALL day EVERY day... and I can tell you, they aren't the smartest tools in the shed. HA! But, they are still my boys...I care about em. But, listening to the things that come out of their mouths... I feel sorry for girls these days hehe. No offense guys! I'm just makin' fun of the kids I know. Anyway, that's my feel on the subject.