Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group

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29 and wondering

Loner
Loner

OKAY I NEED A FUCKIN REAL ANSWER ABOUT THIS I am 29 yes born in 87 and never had a girlfriend in my entire life but the offer had appeared more than once!!!! I want it at times so bad but on the other hand... I don't want to have it with someone who was the potential to leave me or have a STD. what should i do i really want to experience this but i am not very good at socializing as it is, mostly because in a conversation i have nothing to say or no opinion on alot of subjects and i say "right" at the end of every sentance, i finally was told that by someone so what do i do


xiaoxicun
xiaoxicun
Maybe you can learn to contact with girls, and it is fine to fail. Pay attention to you looks and change yourself.
Ogie
Ogie
1 I personally think waiting to give your self to the right person is the best option. 2 Talking to girls might be scary I get it. Just get out and meet people even when your in line for anything talk to the old man old lady anyone. Soon enough you will find it easy and when ahe comes arround ask the girl out for coffee or tea. 3 opinion: Honestly sex is just nasty when you don't have emotions for that person. The sex can just be sex and not satisfying emotionally. Good luck hope that helps.
Eretria3
Eretria3
Well i am 25 and didn't have sex until i was 20. When i did, it ended up being a one night stand and i lost a good friend. I had sex with him because i felt that i would never get a BF if i kept turning down all the guys that were trying to get with me. I have had one BF since then and thought he was the right guy but he ended up cheating on me with several people. I have had sex because i thought i was in love and because i just wanted to have it. I am with nobody right now out of my own choice and i will be honest i have never felt better. I found out that if someone is really interested in you they will wait and not force you to have sex or keep making attempts against your wishes. This may not be the right analogy but the grass isn't always greener on the other side. You may think you will be happy finally having sex with someone but the aftermath just twists your heart and depresses you for giving up something special about yourself to someone who didn't even care.
As to talking to girl the best way is just to talk to them more!! Being able to carry a conversation takes practice unfortunately. Talking to your female coworkers casually about things other than work and asking simple everyday questions are great ways to get used to talking to girls. If they don't like you for you then they aren't worth it anyways.