The day my daughter was born became the day I was my morhers enemy. I was a careful protective mother, but Mom wasnt happy with anything I did. Once, she literally grabbed my baby and said GIVE HER TO ME and I let go, so Bonnie wouldnt get hurt in a struggle. And if both of your matriarchs are there and they are critical anyway, then you do have your hands full!!

Try to speak gently but maintain your self respect. The Bible says a soft answer turns away wrath.

I am sorry this is happening to you. I hope its something rare, about the role reversals of becoming a grandma and greatgrandma. But if this is typical, then we cant say having a new baby has created a new problem. I still struggle to get along with my 82 yr old mom. Hugs.

Others may have better advice than me. When are they leaving??

I don't have anything to add. I will pray that God gives you the words and actions to take to fix this problem.
God Bless you and your family.
May God guide you to sweet victory.

These people for the most part are from your past and are just visiting ,,, you have a wonderful new family that god has given you ,,, I would say focus on today and the future ,,,, a bright and loving future with your new family. You have done so well to be where you are at ,, continue to go forward ,,not back ,,god does great things.

I think you need to set boundaries with them and stick to them. There is a good book called "Boundaries" you should read I can't remember the authors except one is Cloud I think. It's a christian book. You should not have to put up with their destructive behavior. I pray God will give you wisdome knowledg and discernment to know what to say to them and know how to act.

I am glad beckyp posted that reference to the Boundary book by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Another great book to read is called The Mom Factor by Dr. Henry Cloud in describing the types of mothering styles and what each style does to the child's brain in early development. He also describes the "good enough" mother and told me things I had never known as to how to comfort a child and by not doing so brings long lasting discomfort to a child. What an eye opener for me. Greatly helped me put together some of my feelings and made me understand why I am a self-soother until I got into therapy and re-attached the missing link. Now I can comfort my own grown children and grandchildren in a far better way.

The Mom Factor is an easy to read informative book and also leads the reader through the steps of reconciliation with Mom were that to be a choice. I have used that book to reconcile the sharp edges between my daughter and me that had been carried over from my mother and me. There is a workbook for self-study that can also works in a group.

Oh, so many good things await after reading these books! Wonderful stuff happens inside the reader and sets up a whole new action, far healthier, whether or not Mom and Grandma agree. Near or far, the concepts behind the Mom factor has a far reaching grasp--strangle hold or hug--and makes a difference in raising your own child.

Prayers for you and yours.

DR. CHARLES STANLEY ONCE SAID TO DO THE RIGHT THING AND LEAVE THE CONSEQUENCE TO GOD

Hi, some wonderful advice has been given. I know this is a hard thing to say for me..But, sometimes we have to remove ourselves from toxic people in our lives until things change. Even if it's family.

I'll keep all of you in my prayers..

Gentle hugs and God Bless..

Rach

I like that Roger. Do the right thing and leave the rest to God.

Sometimes true wisdom is just so simple.

REMEMBER THAT BELIEVERS ARE SANCTIFIED WHICH MEANS SET APART.

Still praying for you..........and for all ....
Let us know how you are doing when you have time

SO glad that DS is a little bit faster now...It's letting me post a little easier now, it was next to impossible for a while there.
Huge..Rach