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Victim??

Group Foundergjm
gjm
I am not a victim of others, but rather a victim of my expectations, choices and dishonesty. When I expect others to be what I want them to be and not who they are, when they fail to meet my expectations, I am hurt. When my choices are based on self-centeredness, I find I am lonely and distrustful. I gain confidence in myself, however, when I practice honesty in all my affairs. When I search my motives and am honest and trusting, I am aware of the capacity for harm in situations and can avoid those that are harmful.
okiyoe1
okiyoe1
Yes!!! g all well and tru and also quite complicated . So glad i was able to look at these things with a lot of help. Especially in respects to that old lingering stuff that seemed un -explainable , in my affairs day to day staying sober "A day at a Time:)
good post,
Billy
Group Foundergjm
gjm
yeah billy i hear ya. grateful for all the help that was given me without expecting anything in return.
what a concept!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Awesome post G.

I was shaking my head saying "yep", "yep", "yep" as I read.

This morning I learned something my sister did that I strongly disapprove of and as I was telling my friend about it, she (who is not an alcoholic or in aa) reminded me that I am not the director. lol! Yeah, I told her that story from the big book and she uses it on me all the time. lol!

"When I expect others to be what I want them to be and not who they are, when they fail to meet my expectations, I am hurt. "

That should be written in bold & all caps and posted on everyone's fridge as a reminder! haha! :)