I know how you feel as I'm in the same boat. I don't know why either. It's feels like I have come up a level beyond the sexual phase and just want a companionship. It makes it hard as society still looks so much towards the act of being sexual. I too find sex as an intrusion to my life. I see that there is so much out there and so many different ways to show someone you care without having to resort to sex. I just wish these kinds of people were easier to find!

i think MANY people have separate rooms who are married or even in a relationship and MANY people have sex much LESS than people imagine. they publish the figures every year, i think its the japanese that have sex only seven times per year or something.

there is more to life than sex. a LOT more. also japanese practice massage as preventative health and though humans -- all animals need TOUCH, they generally don't need sex as much. high end sports give the same satisfaction as sex, they claim. who knows.

i have also come up with a theory that people need a certain amount in their lifetime and once they meet that quota, it no longer interests them. when i meet someone who is 40 and just getting like that i think to myself, didn't you go out at all when you were young?

meds also change your sex life. nowadays fear of disease changes it as well.