Hi, SunnyBunn, and welcome to our group. If you stayed in a job for more than three years, you're a better person than I am. The longest I've stayed in a job is about 18 months. The one exception to that is that I have kept A Laughter Club going on the DS website for about five years, but that's not a paying job, more like a volunteer job. Being a babysitter for your siblings must have been a lot of responsibility to take on, considering the challenges you faced personally. Give yourself a big pat on the back for having made it through that part of your life.

Please feel free to post as often as you like here, because as most of us know, it takes more than one attempt to get our full stories out. I think that you are going to find that you are stronger than you may know.

So I see this rule:
"Please note that this is a group for child abuse survivors only. If you are a professional in the mental health field, a member of the clergy, or a child abuser yourself, we ask that you not join this group.)"

Does this mean you will remove them if they come?

I have been on other boards where professionals come on and act like their advice or opinion matters more. They speak to others like nothing they say is of value at all.

It would be much safer to never have them telling me their training or experience means that I am of no value to a discussion despite my own experiences.

Thanks

Hi SunnyBunn: I'm glad you are here. It wasn't right what happened to you in childhood. I can't understand people why have children when they treat them so poorly.

I also agree with you about work experiences. I experienced places where they insisted there be team work, and instead it was hostility, no team work, and I kept wondering how blind were the people doing the hiring/firing to allow it to happen. I didn't stay for long. Once place, the employees would go drinking every Friday night at some bar and get really drunk. Because I didn't, they took it out on me.

I left my last job because the "MEN" were allowed to lock up the computer until I had to have access at the last minute. Then they'ed do stupid things like complain about a monitor and keep throwing me off to change the monitor "because it was too squashed".
When I did a fine job despite all this, I was actaully yelled at for succeeding.
I left shortly after that.

Sadly, society still seems to consider what men do as more important, or they get away with abuses and women are just expected to manage despite all sorts of abuses. I put in 70 hours many weeks despite being part time. The full timers just dumped things on me knowing I needed to clean up their messed BEFORE I could even start my work.

I couldn't stay in a job either. I finally started my own business, but it was difficult to get companies to send me work. It wasn't something that ordinary consumers would patronize. But I made it for nearly twenty years, then lost it all when the government decided that small business people didn't belong in that field and kicked us all out.

I worked with a lot of small companies as my clients. There always seemed to be a handful of people who did all the real work in these companies, and a hierarchy of insiders who just seemed to take up space. If the hard workers tried to get a better job elsewhere, they would get blacklisted and no one would hire them.

To be part of the inner circle, you had to be the right gender, the right skin color, the right political party member, the right religion, and even the right church. Or better still, be a member of the owner's family.

I feel that it's helped me to hear the stories of other childhoods like mine. It makes me feel like I'm not a freak, that others have walked the same roads that I have...and fallen into the same roadside ditches sometimes.