Young marriage grown old!

help..
 
I've just been married over a month now. I hate that it's not romantic, he doesn't take me out to places and complaines that I don't clean enough. He's just so negative and offended and I become so reactive and sick of it
 
I try not to fantasise about the the male best friend who would always want to take me out, and treat me in all the ways I ticked and responded. but I chose the other man.
 
It was the hardest decision of my life and one based more on attraction and resistance to hurting anyone else by invoking such a horrid change by standing up the groom.
 
I don't know what to do. There's no way my husband would get counselling. So early into the marriage and we have so many problems. Are we doomed