You Can't Talk To Me That Way

Ugh I have a real love/hate thing going on with pay days.  Always really busy.  I and I always have to go into Lawton.  Congested parking lots scare the hell out of me. 
I had to get up at five to take Lynn to work.  I ran into town and paid bills.  While I was at RAC I saw a laptop that I wanted so I called my husband.  He said if I wanted it to get it.  So spoiled.  Anyway it was a nice Toshiba with Windows Vista.  Haven't heard too many good things about that.  I road around with it in my car for about three hours before I finally called them and told them that I wanted one with Windows 7.  No problem. So I went back and got this pretty Sony Vaio.  
When I got home I had a little of the Chinese takeout that I got for dinner so that I wouldn't have to cook.  Then I went over to my neighbor's house so that she could help me get started on this laptop.  
It was finally time to pick up my husband.  When I did, we talked about my new computer.  I guess I didn't mention that I had traded.  He came in and went out to fix the lawn mower with the new parts I bought.  The were the right ones because I called him while I was there and had him tell the guy what I needed.  Anyway, by the time he had come back in because he needed more parts and a couple of bolts had broken; he was just in a pissy mood.  When he saw the bill that showed I took the first one back he got mad and started yelling.  Well, I yelled back.  Big mistake.  Anger is never cooled by more anger. 
After he had been back outside for awhile, I went out and told him to come in and get cleaned up and have some supper.  When he had cleaned up and I fixed his tea and dinner I looked him in the eye and quietly said, "You can't talk to me like that.  And I can't talk to you like that.  Not if we love each ohter."  And then I came back in here and sat back down in my usual place.  A few minutes later he came in and kissed my cheek and asked if I would forgive him.
Guess we were both tired.  But fighting about little things doesn't help a marriage.  I'm glad we love each other enough to realize it.   

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dazedanconfusedd
dazedanconfusedd

Well I think you handled that situation VERY WELL! I realize fighting anger with anger is never the right thing to do, but at least you both have that strong love that can over come the little fights!
Congrads on the new laptop! Don\'t ya just love it when hubby\'s spoil us! we are bless with that!
PogoPalOj
PogoPalOj

To be completely honest, we used to fight all the time. We never do ANYTHING half way. When we love, we love. When we really argue we REALLY argue.
But we have both learned to counter each other\'s weaknesses with our strengths. It took a long time for us to be this way. And honestly, it takes a lot of work.

My sister always told me that we made it look easy. But no one sees everything. But thanks for the support!
deleted_user
deleted_user

Wow, I need to take a page from your book. What a great way to resolve things.

Enjoy your new laptop!
bmega442
bmega442

wooo wut a day!! I hate argueing but i love makin up! lol Yep, and when your tired you say some stupid stuff. Congrats on the new laptop. My hubby spoils me too, we were walking through walmart, lookin for sumthin, and when we passed by some notebooks i stopped to look at one. He asks me if i want it, i just say its nice, and he\'s off talkin to a sales person for it. It is a windows 7, Ace Aspire. Gees. Really have to watch what i say is nice..lol Anyhoo, hope your morning is going well!!! take care.