WOW, another dream...

I dreamt about my stepfather last night!   He died 2 years ago.   This was the person whose insensitive remarks destroyed the relationship I had with my family - though I have to admit, my relationship with my family already sucked - he was just the catalyst that blew it apart.  MAN, even as I write this I can FEEL the growth!  
I hadn't spoken to him since my sister's wedding 20 years ago when all hell broke loose.   I'd forgiven him, but because they (him and my mother) couldn't be truthful and honest despite us ALL knowing the truth, I just walked away.  Even back then, living with one narcissist, I didn't want to add 2 more....  that was the day I began to see it.... well, in them, not my x....
The dream was nice!   I was watching him HELPING people.   He had a fascination with cars and that was there in my dream... he was running errands, dropping needy people off at new homes... good stuff.  And then I TALKED to him.... I asked him how he was, if HE needed anything.  Nope... and that was about it, the dream was over.  
But this was HUGE for me... because again, i realize that I HAD TO HAVE THOSE EXPERIENCES to become who I am right now, and for the 2nd time in a row, I dreamt about someone who had passed and I didn't attack them in my dreams - I'm looking forward to the next one!