Worrying About What Other People Think About How I'm Handling My Grief
I'm having a bit of a difficult time with a discussion post... about what to and what not to say... It makes me feel odd about the things I've shared... I've never said that I didn't hurt... but yes it has eased... and yes I know there will probably be times its back full force... ah well basically I'll just share what I'm feeling in my journal and if someone doesn't want to read it they don't need to... I won't lay it out there to "attack" them. I'm trying to share love and hope as its been shared with me... guess maybe I'm not doing a good job of it... Going to go the store and try to quit feeling sorry for myself...
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HI sweetie, I know how you feel but know what? We are ALL entitled and do not need to feel that we are going to be attacked. You share what\'s on your heart, I\'m listening. Call when you can!
Hugs,
A
I think you are doing a wonderful job, as I know that I have NEVER felt \"attacked\" by you in anyway, you have been very helpful to me, so don\'t ever think otherwise, Ok? I love you, you have been good for me and thank-you! (((HUGS))) Kat
Thank You so much... I just felt sad because I do talk about how God is helping me... I do hope it helps others... I guess I have to accept I can\'t none of us can... be all things to all people...
I don\'t know what you mean about feeling attacked. Did someone have a problem with how you feel? Just know that you are helping me, and I really appreciate your openness. Keep writing, okay?
Don\'t you dare think you\'re not doing a good job of sharing love and hope. You\'ve been a blessing to me. I\'ve told my fiance about you and how wonderful you\'ve been to me. Don\'t second guess yourself.
One bad apple don\'t spoil the whole bunch, girl! If somebody has a problem with the way you are feeling, then that is THEIR problem (perhaps a co-dependency problem?). Especially since it appears from what you are saying that they have a problem with the fact that you are feeling better. Co-dependents like when others are feeling bad, because then they can have someone to invite to their pity party. For them, it is all about feeling sorry for themselves, rather than expressing their sorrow so as to get mutual support from others; there is a subtle difference. Don\'t let the chronically negative people knock you down to their level. It is people like you who, with your positive attitude and wisdom, have kept me from being brought down by those types of people too.
The post wasn\'t about me... I took it personally because they said that people don\'t need nor want theology or cosmic whatever... and I\'ve been sharing for some time now that I believe Cara talks to me and that I believe God is helping me and all that... so its just hard... No big deal I just need to let it go and not worry about it... I\'m sorry if I upset anyone by mentioning it I was just stupid enough to get my feelings hurt...
I\'m going to get into the board posts and find out what all this is about, but in the meantime....
PEOPLE NEED WHAT THEY NEED AND WE ARE ALL ENTITLED TO SHARE WHATEVER WE THINK WILL HELP OTHERS AND THE THINGS THAT HAVE HELPED US!!!!! I know you get hurt by what others have said but please try to remember that those of us who know you love you just the way you are! Your other girl, SarahMonkey, should serve as the light for your darkness in moments like these......
Now close your eyes, take a deep breath and feel me giving you a great big hug.