Worried
It's not even hours after my first post. The last text I received from Joe said "I miss you too, It kills me not knowing if your ok or not".
Then nothing. I tried reaching out this morning but got no response. I'm worried about him-I know I need to move on but how do you stop worrying about someone that you care about? Is he doing this just to manipulate me? IDK. Do I just need to give him space and pray to God hes ok?
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Since worrying about someone doesn't really help them, maybe you can just not respond. Worry about him from a distance. I know I'm not you, but if I were in your shoes, I would cut off contact at this point. You said something once in one of your journals about how once you make up your mind about something you really can't be stopped. You haven't really gotten to that point yet it seems with him. Not really.
I think back to breaks up I've had with people I loved and honestly, for me, it was far more painful to try to keep communication going than making myself unavailable to them. Not saying it's easy or that it doesn't still hurt. It does. But I had to do that for myself. It made me feel much more sane and emotionally strong. That doesn't mean I stopped caring about them or wondering about them, I did. But I did it from afar. Eventually time takes care of the other stuff, the hurt, the sadness, etc
IIt's ok to check on him if your heart is telling you to do so. Make sure he is ok, but emotionally keep your distance, that's all.
Hugs
Tomorrow I will do my last gesture of kindness-then cut off completely so that I can recover. Yes-I agree-communication hurts worse than moving on.