Wonderful Valentine weekend.

I have had a great weekend with my husband.  I was not looking forward to Valentine's day as it has been a bad day in the past and this year was different. . VD Day my husband was very thoughtful  with gifts and a nice ride on our motorcycle to watch a live band and meet some friends.  Today he went out to the store and returned with flowers and a soft light for our shower as he knows I don't like the harsh lights in there now.  Such simple efforts but amazing feelings for me as he would never have thought to be so thoughtful before.  He asked me on Valentines Day if I felt he had been proving his love and fidelity to me in this past year as he knows how terrible life has been for me since D day,  with his constant checking in and telephoning when we are not together and total transparency I know that he is trying so hard to earn back all the things that I lost due to his A.  We are truly  in love and working to make life wonderful together. I know the pain has not gone away completely but boy it sure has lessened considerably. I see that he needs to be shown much love as well as he knows how badly he messed  up both our lives and also seems to need encouragement that he is doing all the right things.  If we had just been doing this before we wouldn't have had to endure such pain of A. I feel so encouraged by time and also by the help of DS friends and knowing I have not gone completely crazy as so many confirm that they have gone through many of the same feelings that my husband and I have in the last 21 months. Life is good and I pray it gets even better with time and effort.  No one said marriage is easy, but it is sure worth the effort.