Won't be my problem

A thought occurred to me today.  When whoever is left, be it my husband or one of my beloved children who still speak to me, what will they have written in the obituary?  I  expect it to say she is survived by 3 daughters and 2 sons and then their info. But how will they get the names of my grandchildren none of us have ever met?  What are their names, how do you spell them?  It's going to be embarrassing, not for me (ha) but how odd to not know the names of your own grand children! This is just all so very childish and stupid what my ED has done for no reason other than the fact that I stood up to her when she physically abused her little brother when he was 6 and she was 25!!!