Why Is It Always Up To Me?
I've come to realize that the relationships that I have been in and still in, which aren't that many, are the one's I have started. This is my third year in college now and I 've made only a handful of friends.
Why is it all up to me to talk to people and make friends? How come no one ever starts conversations with me? Do I give off some kind of evil aura or something? I don't have body odor or anything. It can't be my personality because people can't know that beforehand. I don't know what it is that makes people not talk to me. I really wish I knew so I could change it. I just wish the people start conversations once and awhile and get to know the true me; not the quiet guy that sits in the back.
Why is it all up to me to talk to people and make friends? How come no one ever starts conversations with me? Do I give off some kind of evil aura or something? I don't have body odor or anything. It can't be my personality because people can't know that beforehand. I don't know what it is that makes people not talk to me. I really wish I knew so I could change it. I just wish the people start conversations once and awhile and get to know the true me; not the quiet guy that sits in the back.
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I understand what you mean. People rarely ever start a conversation with me. I\'m always the one to text or call and ask my \'friends\' how they\'re doing. I wish some of my friends would text me for a change. Sometimes I worry if it is something about me that\'s off putting, I wish I knew so that I could change it. A lot of shy and quiet people have this problem. I try to initiate conversation with other quiet people I see, Like people eating by themselves in the cafeteria (which I do often). Some people are really charasmatic, and don\'t have a problem making friends at all, but for people like us this can be more difficult. I would suggest maybe using your talents as a hook to lure people in. I know you play the guitar, a lot of people think that\'s cool maybe you could find some place to play it on campus, like a talent show where you would get noticed. I think it\'s about finding a way to lure people in so they know you\'re very fun and interesting to be around. We\'ll just have to keep trying, until something breaks through.