Why do I have to change?
I was told that if you want to change people's response, it is you that have to change.
My wife keeps telling me I have to change. That there is something wrong with me. She didn't like the fact that I like the way things are. I like who I am and I like my life. WHy change it? In the mean time she keeps trying to better herself. Finding better ways to eat, better ways to exercise, better way in everything. She actually went VEGAN.
She is annoyed at me that I am not like her.
She is also a HOARDER. We still have magazines from 2008. Every flat surface has to be covered.
My wife keeps telling me I have to change. That there is something wrong with me. She didn't like the fact that I like the way things are. I like who I am and I like my life. WHy change it? In the mean time she keeps trying to better herself. Finding better ways to eat, better ways to exercise, better way in everything. She actually went VEGAN.
She is annoyed at me that I am not like her.
She is also a HOARDER. We still have magazines from 2008. Every flat surface has to be covered.
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I was also the one that was happy, raising children with my life and my ex-husband was not happy. Wanted me to be blonde, tatooed and on the back of a Harley. Not me; I am mom, never been blonde, don\'t like tattoos and I just don\'t fit in the with the Harley crowd. I like being home, being with friends, laughing, playing games, hiking and being mom.
Sorry, you are facing this. I tried for 9 months to be optimistic, friendly, and loving and he left. It was 4 years ago and he is since remarried.
Thanks Wendy.
Somerdad, if you truly love her, why wouldn\'t you at least try to meet her 1/2 way? If this is truly not what you want, suggest the two of you go to counseling together. Marriage should be give and take, you both meet in the middle.
I feel for you and wish you luck.