Who needs friends
Not I said the cat. Done with everyone. The people I try to keep around are 90% of the time on bull and I have let go of others that haven't proven themselves worthy. I don't understand why people hold on to people they know they should let go of. I am guilty of it but once I realized that those people were getting in the way of my real happiness and or causing issues with my home life I let em go. I don't understand why others can't do the same. At first I tried to chalk it up to a disorder that this particular individual was diagnosed with but the actions that have gone along with it have proven other wise. Not only are I holding on to someone that is causing issues on your home life/relationship but u are trying to justify it (which says u know there is an issue with what u are doing) , you are also trying to hide it ( which says you know I have an issue with it) then you choose to flaunt this person in my face just to prove a point ( now it just being an ass hole) and u know what.... That's fine. I have forgiven a lot of your past and am still working on some others but I know I'm tay not perfect. I am a work in progress and if the universe can forgive me after I accept my flaws and am actively working on being a better person then forget who ever else can't. I don't need any friends, I came in this world alone, I made children who ate my responsibility and forget everyone else. You can have your friends since they mean so much to you but stay the hell away from me.
We will now all be learning how virtuous patience is and how golden silence can be because I have nothing more to say to you! That's my word. See the old me was a force to be reckoned with and too many people said I was mean and antisocial but guess what....I was on my grind. I had food money and didn't want or need for anything from anyone. Well guess who is back!
We will now all be learning how virtuous patience is and how golden silence can be because I have nothing more to say to you! That's my word. See the old me was a force to be reckoned with and too many people said I was mean and antisocial but guess what....I was on my grind. I had food money and didn't want or need for anything from anyone. Well guess who is back!
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Not everyone is to the state you are with letting go especially if you\'re one who has caused that person damage as well... but you both having issues is an issue seems like you don\'t understand hers nor she yours... wishing you well...
Well it goes both ways and after the amount of time we have been together if she hasn\'t gotten to the point that the family we created together is more important than these friends, exes and who knows what else then at this point... What\'s the point. I can admit we have BOTH caused each other damage but no progress can be made until both parties decide its time to let go of the past to make room for the future. That\'s the first step but it can\'t even happen until she is willing to admit that she did and is in the wrong too. If not then there is no future because of the past and I can move on by myself because I will not do another 4 years of this.
And what if she does know how to let go..?
Then it\'s insult to injury because the whole time she has been holding on to these third and fourth parties she has been claiming innocence, as in she didn\'t know it was causing a problem. If she feels she needs to let go of me then that\'s a loss I\'m just goin to have to accept because it already feels like everyone else is more important than me anyway. Idk I love her and I wanted things to work out and I have done so much to try to show her but same crap different day. She doesn\'t acknowledge my efforts to make changes and isn\'t making efforts to change herself so I guess every sign is pointing to the fact that she does know how to let go, I just thought it would be of all the distractions so we could move foreword but as it seems its actually the opposite. Just wish she would have let me know that from jump so I could have started preparing myself. :/ anyway thanks! You have really helped open my eyes
My apologies for the typo... what if she doesnt kno how to let go? Is what I meant..
Ignorance or the lack of knowledge is only an excuse for so long because at some point you have to be open to learning and willing to implement what you have learned. Less it be all in vain. She hasn\'t shown me that she even has any real interest in letting go because all it would take is one sentence, all she has to do is tell the person y they need to bounce and let them do the work. I can guarantee that since the first time I told her I had issues with this person being around not ONCE did she ever say to them look I need I too back off,y significant other (or whoever I am) isn\'t comfortable with us communicating cuz of our past together and her wishes come first. As a real friend that person should be like oh ok I understand an that would be that.
If that person responds somewhere along the lines of forget your partner or she tripping then you know that\'s not someone you need to have around your relationship if you want it to grow.
I am 1000% sure my partner has either not done that or she allowed the other parties to say something along the lines of examples and continued their \"friendship\" which shows no respect for me or our relationship therefore the other party has no reason to respect out relationship either.
Clearly you dont know either of our our issues (seems like she and I have a lot in common) to think it is that simple.. smh... I wish you the best as you really dont understand and on top of it call her ignorant... wow...
The definition of ignorance is a,lack of knowledge therefore using that word in the manner I did was not an insult. It was,merely about perception and how important it is. That word is so often misused that when treated correctly it\'s still misunderstood....much like people.
I don\'t understand and I don\'t claim to but her fear of being alone is actually going to drive her to such. I\'m here, been here thick and thing, good and bad, worst and worse than that but I\'ve been here showing up and showing out. Ben in my physical absence I still made sure everything was straight for,when I came home and she was so afraid I would, never come back that she treated,me like crap to keep from forming attachments to me. I made it home and she still distances herself from me. Yet she keeps these other people she knows o have issues with around so at the end of the day she wins! She won\'t ne alone cuz it\'s either them or me. And since she is so afraid it will be me maybe I\'m better off just backing down while she still had them so she has nothing more to worry about