When he manages to ruin yet another nice Sunday.
Woke up to a beautiful Sunday morning making waffles for all my kids this morning so much fun felt like it used to minus the one empty place at the table where he used to sit. We laughed and joked just like old times Sunday morning breakfast always big in my family. The morning was going great Austin was so excited that we finally saved up enough to go see that movie he was dying to see and I was so excited to take him. My first trip to the movies since he left. So up to the movie theater we drive and GUESS WHO'S THERE TO MEET US!!!!!!! There's dad I could have CHOKED HIM WITH MY BARE HANDS. What are you doing here? I thought I would go to a movie too. Yah right does anyone buy that load of crap?????? So for Austin's sake I put on a smile and held in my RAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If that wasn't bad enough after the movie I said he could take him for a few hours even though it was my weekend I know Austin likes spending time with his dad. So I said goodbye to him graciously and told him to have Austin home by 8. I went to the store and when I returned what did I find but my stbx sitting on my couch drinking a Dr pepper watching a game with Austin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I said What are you doing here in my house? Just spending some time with our son he said. Then he goes and helps unload the car with groceries opens up my fridge and grabs another drink then sits back down and made himself right at home. I just stood there in SHOCK knowing I couldn't throw him out infront of Austin I went to my room shut the door and prayed that God would help me breathe and let this nightmare end soon.
Well it did end when my 19 yr old daughter got home and she said what I did not have the courage to say. " WHAT THE SAM HELL ARE YOU DOING IN HERE" "IF YOU WANT TO SEE AUSTIN YOU NEED TO TAKE HIM TO YOUR PLACE OR TO GRANDMA'S YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE IN THIS HOUSE"!!!!!! "WHERE'S MY MOM AT" " THANKS YOU RUINED HER NIGHT NOW I'M SURE" Then she turned to Austin and said " I'm sorry Austin but daddy should take you to the park or grandma's to play with you not here where mommy is do you understand? He said " Yah I told dad he shouldn't be here but he said it's fine mom wouldn't mind" Why would he do this? I have been very gracious always about Austin spending time with him but he has NO RESPECT OR CARE ABOUT MY FEELINGS AT ALL!!!!!!!! Then he actually played the marter when he left saying " Well I guess i'll go since no one wants me here sorry I ruined everybody's day." O h please he didn't give a rat's ass about anyone elses feelings but his own. Then makes me look like the bad guy in Austin's eyes because I didn't want him here.
Thank God only one more hour before Austin goes to bed then I can have a glass of wine and VENT MY ASS OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If that wasn't bad enough after the movie I said he could take him for a few hours even though it was my weekend I know Austin likes spending time with his dad. So I said goodbye to him graciously and told him to have Austin home by 8. I went to the store and when I returned what did I find but my stbx sitting on my couch drinking a Dr pepper watching a game with Austin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I said What are you doing here in my house? Just spending some time with our son he said. Then he goes and helps unload the car with groceries opens up my fridge and grabs another drink then sits back down and made himself right at home. I just stood there in SHOCK knowing I couldn't throw him out infront of Austin I went to my room shut the door and prayed that God would help me breathe and let this nightmare end soon.
Well it did end when my 19 yr old daughter got home and she said what I did not have the courage to say. " WHAT THE SAM HELL ARE YOU DOING IN HERE" "IF YOU WANT TO SEE AUSTIN YOU NEED TO TAKE HIM TO YOUR PLACE OR TO GRANDMA'S YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE IN THIS HOUSE"!!!!!! "WHERE'S MY MOM AT" " THANKS YOU RUINED HER NIGHT NOW I'M SURE" Then she turned to Austin and said " I'm sorry Austin but daddy should take you to the park or grandma's to play with you not here where mommy is do you understand? He said " Yah I told dad he shouldn't be here but he said it's fine mom wouldn't mind" Why would he do this? I have been very gracious always about Austin spending time with him but he has NO RESPECT OR CARE ABOUT MY FEELINGS AT ALL!!!!!!!! Then he actually played the marter when he left saying " Well I guess i'll go since no one wants me here sorry I ruined everybody's day." O h please he didn't give a rat's ass about anyone elses feelings but his own. Then makes me look like the bad guy in Austin's eyes because I didn't want him here.
Thank God only one more hour before Austin goes to bed then I can have a glass of wine and VENT MY ASS OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Can you change the locks at your house? This was totally wrong for him to do and the sad thing is he knew exactly what he was doing. I will say you have raised a great daughter. She had the guts to tell him off and then explain to her brother why his dad did something wrong.
Take this lesson from you daughter and next time put your foot down and put him out. Your son certainly showed you that he understands his dad didn\'t belong there. This man has no respect for boundaries and you are going to have to be firm with him to see that he respects your home and your rights to live without him around. This was your time to do something special with your children and he intruded on your time with your children.
No more free rides for him. I wouldn\'t let Austin go with him unless it is his weekend to have him.
I\'m with Trisha on this one!
As I have said before, \"playing nice\" in divorce will get you NOTHING. If you were a man, I would be telling you to \"grow a pair\" -- come on, T, HE DIDN\'T RUIN YOUR WEEKEND -- YOU allowed him to!
NO is a very simple, one syllable word. I\'m wondering how he knew you and Austin were going to that movie at that time.
Sorry you had to deal with your sorry stbx sitting in your house and meeting you at the movies.I would have probably been the same way and not said anything.I am starting to speak back to him though.
My daughter would have done the same.
Hang in there and demand what you want .
Thinking of you! :) Maggie