What is the point
Why do I keep checking up on him on his accounts. He will lie anyway and wants to be with her so why do I keep thinking that things will change?! My mom is right...maybe we both need help since we are doing it to each other. I need to stop for my own piece of mind and to show I'm not "crazy" like they think I am and continue to talk about me. Why should I care...it hurts but most of all we are still on the same house so it's hard to try to get along even for the kids sake.
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I know how it is. I am in the same house with my stbx. It is extremely difficult.
I did that for a long time, even after I knew it was over and I regret it. I think of all the time I wasted doing that and wish I had it back. My therapist told me one thing I should do first was to stop checking the phone records, etc because it is out of my control, they were going to talk regardless of whether I checked and confronted her or not, and it was just taking time away from me healing and moving forward.
I know how difficult it is, especially when you are still under the same roof. Hopefully soon he won\'t be there and you can start to move forward. I guess my advice just be civil around the kids and then avoid him as much as possible, or just avoid bringing up the affair.
((((((((Hugs))))))) I know how hard it is!
Basically, the entire process sucks. Being in the same house hurts....and when you are no longer together, it hurts as well (in a different way). They are going to talk regardless of what you do. It\'s a sick little power game...as if kicking you while you are down will strengthen their relationship. It just shows that they are building that relationship on a sand foundation. Real love should be built on mutual joy and happiness of all involved...not on the destruction of others. Who will they trash when you have moved on? You aren\'t crazy, just hurt and shell shocked.
No way are you crazy, they are the crazy delusional ones, even tho they may actually say you are!!! You know you\'re not, you may be hurt,
you may be shocked, you may be devastated, but not crazy!
My H said I was delusional for saying that I believed they had a sexual affair. Turns out that he was obsessed & futured living their life together!!! Until I set the ultimatum. Turns out in th e end, he had to eat crow, and apologize, that I was not crazy. Any woman expects more than that shit, when she\'s married! Period!!! And she deserves more from her H!!!