What is Grieving?

Grieving is not difficult; it is much more than difficult---no human term can describe how hard it is. But grieving is human condition that everyone experiences. Yet, no human term can describe it properly. That is why only widows and widowers can really comfort each other. We don’t do grieving by words, we comfort each other by feeling and sharing each other’s grief behind words.
Grieving is not disconnecting, but reconnecting with your loved one spiritually. Only physical absence makes spiritual presence more real.  
Grieving is not a goal of losing love; it is a process of expressing and experiencing love.
Grieving is not experiencing death; it is experiencing death AND coming back. Grieving dies the death so you know that there is no death and there is no fear in death.  
Grieving is not about darkness; it is about the light in the darkness. You are the light. You are most shining in the darkest.
Grieving is not to stop living life; it is part of life.  
Grieving is not end; it is a start.
Grieving is not to forget; but to remember.
Grieving is not done by yourself; but by you and your spouse, spiritually. You cannot lose your spouse anymore. You do everything together, from now and forever.  
Grieving is not a fight, it is much difficult than that---it is surrender. It is relentless pursue of surrender. You don’t need to fight your feeling and emotions, you need to accept and give it to the Creator, who “transcend all understandings”.