What have YOU learned from all of this?

What is the most important thing you have learned through your divorce process.  What have you gained in knowledge about yourself.  How will it help you with future relationships. I will start..... The very first thing I did when my X told me he didn't love me any more was look deep within myself to see what I had done in my marriage that contributed to it's downfall and I apologized to him for it.  Because of this I have changed myself into the woman and wife I want to be and maybe should have been all along.  Don't get me wrong, that doesn't mean I take full blame, just owning up to my part. Because of this I will be a better wife.......just not his wife.