What do you do?
How do you leave such a long marriage when your partner wants to continue fixing themselves while still married to you? Yet they continue repeating the same mistakes.He continue to hide and lie about texts to female coworkers. I feel im the only one losing and being taken for granted. I tried to think of all the growth we have gone through that we can get through this one too.
Im always at my low when this happens. N i find myself wanting to divorce him to let him go and so he doesnt have to feel bad that he hurted me. But i always find myself here still with him cuz he always says he wants to change and really want to stop doing whats he doing...
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It sounds like your husband can do whatever he wants and suffer no consequences. As long as he can get away with it, he will keep doing it. You are a good, kind, caring, forgiving, loving person and you have done all you can do for him. I’m sorry but it really doesn’t sound like he wants to change.
You are not respecting yourself and by extension he is not respecting you, either. You are a good person and you deserve better than this. Love yourself first, unconditionally. Stop settling for this nonsense. You deserve so much better than this.
You have got to walk away and let him go. I can’t stress this enough— you sound like a compassionate, caring, forgiving person and he knows that about you. He knows he can get away with anything because of those qualities. They are really good qualities to have—-don’t get me wrong, but he is taking advantage of your kindness. You don’t deserve that in any way. You really need to get out, let him go. Learn to love yourself and eventually you will find someone that also loves and respects you as much as you deserve.
Thank you Robofrogg.