What an incredible ASSHOLE!
This was a good phone call for me to make. I called him out of shear boredom and just wanted to talk. Talked about nothing for the most part, but then I asked him when he checked out. Of course he says " I dunno know". Standard answer. Then I asked if there were ever times when he wanted to say something. "Sure" he said, but he was afraid that I would poo poo him or say it was nothing. I was SHOCKED! I couldn't believe it! I said to him "you really think that if you told me you weren't happy I would say it was nothing?"
Well this enraged me. I told him that he obviously doesn't have a very high opinion of me and doesn't give me very much credit. I also told him that he's redefining our marriage to suit his needs, and using me to justify himself. What an ASSHOLE! Did I really think this was some great guy!
This is exactly what happened when he had that affair. Putting me down so he could justify himself screwing somebody else. What a fantasy world.
The same with him acting like the kids are unfazed by all this. Don't face the fallout of YOUR actions. ME, ME, ME!
GO F%CK YOURSELF!
Well this enraged me. I told him that he obviously doesn't have a very high opinion of me and doesn't give me very much credit. I also told him that he's redefining our marriage to suit his needs, and using me to justify himself. What an ASSHOLE! Did I really think this was some great guy!
This is exactly what happened when he had that affair. Putting me down so he could justify himself screwing somebody else. What a fantasy world.
The same with him acting like the kids are unfazed by all this. Don't face the fallout of YOUR actions. ME, ME, ME!
GO F%CK YOURSELF!
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Go Kelly... mad is good at this point. I can relate to everything you wrote. Mine had an affair 4 yrs ago and we were separated for 6 months. Exactly as you state, he put me down to justify the affair. In the longer run he was embarrassed by it and I took him back thinking he was sincere in his regret. The second time around there is no OW yet, but his biggest driving motivation is that he did not complete leaving me the first time and he is damn going to get it right this time. He filed on the day he left me. He is putting me down to justify his recent departure. It is clear as day he is looking for greener pastures. Spent 30K on a motorcycle in the days before he left. He is a jackass and I agree mine too should go F^&K himself.
Seems to be a running theme, with my ex boyfriend who I was with, was so cold and uncaring, withheld love and affection, and it was all to try to justify his whole betrayel and bad behaviour, of course my radar was up a long time ago, but no I thought it was easier to stay in a bad situation then be alone, Boy did I learn my lesson, still learning, Will never let someone treat me so badly again
Kelly and lostandalone:
You GO, girls! Nothing like a healthy dose of RIGHTOUS INDIGNATION to get you out of the funk and advocating for yourself! I\'m proud of BOTH of you! Now keep the momentum going and don\'t look back! The rest of your life will be the BEST OF YOUR LIFE if you can maintain your momentum!
Yes, girl power when it comes to cheating, lowlife of stbx or soon to be stbx. I exploded like a roman candle, stay the course, my friend. When you seem him, wave and smile. Be happy best revenge