What about your inner child?
I was speaking to my friend today about all these codependency things that came to me in a flash. I am really being "BITCH" for standing up for myself or Am i being selfish or Am i being shrewd or Am i ruining somebody life Am I Am I ...............
She explained me this very nicely. Imagine there were two kids playing the playground and one kid hurts the other. The kid who got hurts runs to mom to complain about his brother so mom can take an action about it.
What if the boy never approched the mom amnd kept quiet what would have happen? Things would be worse isnt it.. Like wise you went to the cops to stand up against your Ex. What about protecting your inner child? and this one simple sentence made lot of sense to me. Being codependent you care about others and since you are in a situation you are clouded by codependency.
You are standing to protect your child and that is not selfishness nor being Bitch... Its protecting yourself.
Wierdly such simple things make lots of sense yet we loose the sight.
She explained me this very nicely. Imagine there were two kids playing the playground and one kid hurts the other. The kid who got hurts runs to mom to complain about his brother so mom can take an action about it.
What if the boy never approched the mom amnd kept quiet what would have happen? Things would be worse isnt it.. Like wise you went to the cops to stand up against your Ex. What about protecting your inner child? and this one simple sentence made lot of sense to me. Being codependent you care about others and since you are in a situation you are clouded by codependency.
You are standing to protect your child and that is not selfishness nor being Bitch... Its protecting yourself.
Wierdly such simple things make lots of sense yet we loose the sight.
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I remember writing that in one of the many letters that I wrote to xn (but never sent). I wrote: I must protect myself. If I do not, then who will? There is no one else to protect me.
We are so busy trying to save others that we forget to save ourselves.