what a wonderful monday!!
Well I went to work today with fears that I might get yelled at when I went in. Let me start at the begining..
Yesterday I worked 9 am to 9 pm. I often do long shifts on sundays cause I hate sundays. Max was born on a sunday. I figured if I worked all day then it would help take my mind off things. Well I went in tired from a long shift the day before and wasnt really in the best of moods. Of course they had me on lunch again. That means cooking for 20 people. All the residents and staff in the house. I get put on lunch and usually dinner every sunday. It got around that Im a good cook and now it has become a curse..lol...anyhow we served lunch late. usually around noon is when we serve but had issues with the shift sheet and outings for the residents so we didnt start serving until around 1230. we have two staff that come in at 1 pm on sundays. One of the staff is very childish, loves attention and is a major drama queen.One of those people that you wanna hit but its not worth loosing your job over. Well when she came in at one, I was starting kitchen clean up.the kitchen was a mess because we had just finished lunch. She was sitting with one of the residents who was eating late and one of the other residents came in the dining room. He is a "food taker" For those who dont know what that is, its someone who eats whatever they see. They are always hungry and will "steal" food from anyone and even take it right out of your hands or eat off the floor. Its sad but they dont undertand how unhealthy that is so we do our best to prevent it but most "food takers" are very strong and will fight you to get the food. Well this resident is the biggest "food taker" in the house. The drama queen saw him entering the room and very meanly and aggresivly told him to "get out". that caught my attention. I watched her thru the window between the kitchen and dining room(in the house all doors must be opened with a key and pexy glass windows are up so staff can see into other rooms. This is for the safety of the residents. They are low functioning and can hurt themselves if given access to certain rooms, the kitchen being one of them..even the bathrooms have alarms because none of the residents can be alone in the bathroom either). anyhow I was watching her thru the window and she pushed the resident backwards out of the room with force. This pissed me off. You NEVER lay a hand on them unless you do it properly and pushing someone the way she did is abuse.I have found that since Max died, I dont know why, but I have become more overprotective of the residents. Its like their your children sometimes and wont tolerate them being hurt. Well I didnt say anything to her because she left on an outing.Later that evening I was scheduled for the diner outting with our three 1 on 1's. That means a staff has to be with this person within arms reach at all times because they can cause harm to themselves if not watch closely. One is because he has a hard time walking on his own and is in a wheelchair but cant tranfeer himself and needs to be toileted every hour, one is because he eats things that are not edible and also "smears" his feces when he is mad..( I sometimes wonder why I go to work..lol) but I love the guys, and the other one is because he has a feeding tube that he does not want and pulls it out all the time.Well It was open to what staff I would take with me. Drama queen asked who I was taking and I told her I already asked someone and in front of her ask the other staff. I did not want drama queen going and it made her mad. So while Im gone she starts ranting and raving that I dont do my job and SHE has to do everything. She then writes a note and slips it under the managers door telling him the kitchen was a mess when she got in at 1 pm. Mind you, we didnt even start lunch until 1230 . So I get back to the house and a friend of mine pulled me aside and told me what was said. she thought I had the right to know. I didnt say anything to her because I dont like drama and was not going to be a part of it. I went back out to the living room to find her and the not sure if pregnat girl talking. I told the story of the not sure if pregnant girl in a previous journal. Well with her, she never showed proof of pregnancy and was saying last night that she told them that it was her personal business and didnt have to show them anything. Well the two of them start going on and on how the house sucked and thier sick of everyone and sick of the house and noone does thier jobs but them ect ect ect...About that time the assist manager that Im close to called about some paper work. I told him everything including seeing her push the resident and what the not sure if pregant girl said about proof of pregnancy. He told me to put it all in writing so I did. One of the other staff also wrote a note stating that she too is sick of the drama and has seen the drama queen push a resident in a chair. After getting off the phone, my friend came in the office and told me again what was being said about me while I was in there. I was furious by now. I told my friend that "im going to get myself fired right now" and walked out of the office. I found the drama queen in the sensory room and shut the door. there were no residents and I talked as calmly as possable. I said to her"If you have a problem with me then be an adult and say it to my face. I have no problem telling you to your face that you are lazy, you have a bad attitude and EVERYONE is sick and tied of your drama. You are a childish kindergardener and need to grow up. You dont do anyones job around here and we are lucky if you do your OWN job. If you hate this house so much and are sick of everyone then just leave. Noone wants to hear your bullshit whining and lying anymore. You are the cause of all the drama in this house and no body wants the drama here so again if you are that unhappy then leave I promise you none will beg you to stay. And also If you had been an adult rather than a child then you would have asked why the kitchen was still a mess when you came in rather than just jump to conclusions. The kitchen was a mess because we started lunch late today and if you had asked we would have explain but instaed to get your "attention" you start ranting about me not doing my job. You do nothing here and you should just leave"..I walked out of the room. My friend was standing on the other side of the door. I didnt know until I walked out. She said she wanted to make sure things didnt get loud or she was coming in. The drama queen wasnt worth losing my job over and she was goin to stop it before it got to that point. Well I went in today worried I was in trouble. We are not suppossed to confront eachother and we are to go to managers with problems like this. So I get in today and the asst manager tells me Scott, the manger wants to have a meeting after staff meeting tomorrow. All I could think is oh shit. I asked her if I was in trouble and told her what happened, about the pushing, gossip and the speech I gave. She said no I was not in trouble but I should have not confronted her because she is the type to cause a scene and Im lucky she didnt. The asst manger then goes out to living room with all the staff but me cause I was with a 1 on 1 and tells them there will be no gossiping tonight or you get sent home. Around 4 the manager Scott comes in house.I was waiting for him to say something to me and he just said hello. Then I break my key off in the bathrom closet door and he was real friendly when he went to get me another key..still didnt say anything about last night. I was in one of the bedrooms for awhile and when I went back out I noticed that drama queen wasnt there. She had left her one on one alone in the dining room. the one that eats anything and smears. I waited with him for her to come back. didnt see her anywheres. we were geting ready for dinner but the cook was doing a second med check so I just waited. In the mean time the not sure if pregnant girl and other staff were getting the tube feeders ready for thier dinner outing. we get them out of the house during mealtimes so they dont have to be tempted by food because they cant eat anything by mouth and its just mean to tease them. Well the asst manger walked up and stood next to me but there is small wall between the living room and dining room so she was hard to see unless you where were I was standing. Next thing we know, the not sure if pregnant pushes one of the residents all the way accross the living room and pushes him into a chair. I am at this time still waiting for drama queen to come in and take her one on one back. mind you not sure if pregnant is about 100 lbs the man she was pushing weighs 220 lbs. If she is pregant how did she push a man that big across a room without worry? Anyhow the asst manager told her she cant be pushing the guys like that. She says"he was pushing my stomach"..this resident likes to go thru peoples pockets and she had her jacket on. he wasnt pushing her stomach he was checking her pockets. He does it to all of us. When I was pregnant I just let him have at it. No point in fighting him. Just kept pockets empty. Anyhow, the asst magr tells her again that she just cant be treating the guys like that and cant push them. The asst magr went to answer one of the bathroom door alarms after that and the not sure if pregnant mumbled something at her. when the assit magr came back to dining room not sure if pregnant very rudley said she didnt "push" him he pushed her and was moving him. The asst magr said that her and I saw the whole thing and she pushed him. She then says " I can to whatever the F^&K I want". the asst mangr told her to not say that infront of the guys. not sure if pregant said" I didnt F-ing push him" The manger heard her that time and yelled down the hall"thats enough"..she then says "He f-ing pushed me and I was going to let him do that" the manager was standing at a bathrrom door and ask the asst mangr to cover for him so her could talk to her. She said "Im f-ing out of here" the manger asked if she was walking out? she walked out the door , leaving us under staffed,and that was that. By then I had figured out that drama queen was no wheres to be found either. Guess what? she walked out shortly before that when confronted by manager about yesterday...All of us staff just stood there in shock and I smiled!!! what A wonderful monday. they are both gone!!!!! well later after dinner the manager caught me alone with a one on one his his room. I thought oh shit again. he asked what happened and I told him. I told him about the drama she was spreading, about what they said about him and other managers, about confronting her, about her pushing the resident yesterday, how she keeps throwing comments at me that I know are comments about my Son passing away and how she says things to make cry about him just to be mean.she is the one I wrote about my first day back in the laundry room. She walked in after me that day and said I shouldnt be there, wouldnt want to hurt the baby. she says this knowing he had already passed away and left me in tears..anyhow He said that he wished I had told him sooner about the comments about Max because that would have been takin care of but as for confronting her not to do that again. I told him the mood I was in and I was so angry it was either make a scene or confront her in private..I couldnt hold it in anymore after she made another comment aiming at Max. He said he undrstood just next time call him first and he will take care of it. so as of right now all is good at work (knock on wood) and the two bitches are gone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yesterday I worked 9 am to 9 pm. I often do long shifts on sundays cause I hate sundays. Max was born on a sunday. I figured if I worked all day then it would help take my mind off things. Well I went in tired from a long shift the day before and wasnt really in the best of moods. Of course they had me on lunch again. That means cooking for 20 people. All the residents and staff in the house. I get put on lunch and usually dinner every sunday. It got around that Im a good cook and now it has become a curse..lol...anyhow we served lunch late. usually around noon is when we serve but had issues with the shift sheet and outings for the residents so we didnt start serving until around 1230. we have two staff that come in at 1 pm on sundays. One of the staff is very childish, loves attention and is a major drama queen.One of those people that you wanna hit but its not worth loosing your job over. Well when she came in at one, I was starting kitchen clean up.the kitchen was a mess because we had just finished lunch. She was sitting with one of the residents who was eating late and one of the other residents came in the dining room. He is a "food taker" For those who dont know what that is, its someone who eats whatever they see. They are always hungry and will "steal" food from anyone and even take it right out of your hands or eat off the floor. Its sad but they dont undertand how unhealthy that is so we do our best to prevent it but most "food takers" are very strong and will fight you to get the food. Well this resident is the biggest "food taker" in the house. The drama queen saw him entering the room and very meanly and aggresivly told him to "get out". that caught my attention. I watched her thru the window between the kitchen and dining room(in the house all doors must be opened with a key and pexy glass windows are up so staff can see into other rooms. This is for the safety of the residents. They are low functioning and can hurt themselves if given access to certain rooms, the kitchen being one of them..even the bathrooms have alarms because none of the residents can be alone in the bathroom either). anyhow I was watching her thru the window and she pushed the resident backwards out of the room with force. This pissed me off. You NEVER lay a hand on them unless you do it properly and pushing someone the way she did is abuse.I have found that since Max died, I dont know why, but I have become more overprotective of the residents. Its like their your children sometimes and wont tolerate them being hurt. Well I didnt say anything to her because she left on an outing.Later that evening I was scheduled for the diner outting with our three 1 on 1's. That means a staff has to be with this person within arms reach at all times because they can cause harm to themselves if not watch closely. One is because he has a hard time walking on his own and is in a wheelchair but cant tranfeer himself and needs to be toileted every hour, one is because he eats things that are not edible and also "smears" his feces when he is mad..( I sometimes wonder why I go to work..lol) but I love the guys, and the other one is because he has a feeding tube that he does not want and pulls it out all the time.Well It was open to what staff I would take with me. Drama queen asked who I was taking and I told her I already asked someone and in front of her ask the other staff. I did not want drama queen going and it made her mad. So while Im gone she starts ranting and raving that I dont do my job and SHE has to do everything. She then writes a note and slips it under the managers door telling him the kitchen was a mess when she got in at 1 pm. Mind you, we didnt even start lunch until 1230 . So I get back to the house and a friend of mine pulled me aside and told me what was said. she thought I had the right to know. I didnt say anything to her because I dont like drama and was not going to be a part of it. I went back out to the living room to find her and the not sure if pregnat girl talking. I told the story of the not sure if pregnant girl in a previous journal. Well with her, she never showed proof of pregnancy and was saying last night that she told them that it was her personal business and didnt have to show them anything. Well the two of them start going on and on how the house sucked and thier sick of everyone and sick of the house and noone does thier jobs but them ect ect ect...About that time the assist manager that Im close to called about some paper work. I told him everything including seeing her push the resident and what the not sure if pregant girl said about proof of pregnancy. He told me to put it all in writing so I did. One of the other staff also wrote a note stating that she too is sick of the drama and has seen the drama queen push a resident in a chair. After getting off the phone, my friend came in the office and told me again what was being said about me while I was in there. I was furious by now. I told my friend that "im going to get myself fired right now" and walked out of the office. I found the drama queen in the sensory room and shut the door. there were no residents and I talked as calmly as possable. I said to her"If you have a problem with me then be an adult and say it to my face. I have no problem telling you to your face that you are lazy, you have a bad attitude and EVERYONE is sick and tied of your drama. You are a childish kindergardener and need to grow up. You dont do anyones job around here and we are lucky if you do your OWN job. If you hate this house so much and are sick of everyone then just leave. Noone wants to hear your bullshit whining and lying anymore. You are the cause of all the drama in this house and no body wants the drama here so again if you are that unhappy then leave I promise you none will beg you to stay. And also If you had been an adult rather than a child then you would have asked why the kitchen was still a mess when you came in rather than just jump to conclusions. The kitchen was a mess because we started lunch late today and if you had asked we would have explain but instaed to get your "attention" you start ranting about me not doing my job. You do nothing here and you should just leave"..I walked out of the room. My friend was standing on the other side of the door. I didnt know until I walked out. She said she wanted to make sure things didnt get loud or she was coming in. The drama queen wasnt worth losing my job over and she was goin to stop it before it got to that point. Well I went in today worried I was in trouble. We are not suppossed to confront eachother and we are to go to managers with problems like this. So I get in today and the asst manager tells me Scott, the manger wants to have a meeting after staff meeting tomorrow. All I could think is oh shit. I asked her if I was in trouble and told her what happened, about the pushing, gossip and the speech I gave. She said no I was not in trouble but I should have not confronted her because she is the type to cause a scene and Im lucky she didnt. The asst manger then goes out to living room with all the staff but me cause I was with a 1 on 1 and tells them there will be no gossiping tonight or you get sent home. Around 4 the manager Scott comes in house.I was waiting for him to say something to me and he just said hello. Then I break my key off in the bathrom closet door and he was real friendly when he went to get me another key..still didnt say anything about last night. I was in one of the bedrooms for awhile and when I went back out I noticed that drama queen wasnt there. She had left her one on one alone in the dining room. the one that eats anything and smears. I waited with him for her to come back. didnt see her anywheres. we were geting ready for dinner but the cook was doing a second med check so I just waited. In the mean time the not sure if pregnant girl and other staff were getting the tube feeders ready for thier dinner outing. we get them out of the house during mealtimes so they dont have to be tempted by food because they cant eat anything by mouth and its just mean to tease them. Well the asst manger walked up and stood next to me but there is small wall between the living room and dining room so she was hard to see unless you where were I was standing. Next thing we know, the not sure if pregnant pushes one of the residents all the way accross the living room and pushes him into a chair. I am at this time still waiting for drama queen to come in and take her one on one back. mind you not sure if pregnant is about 100 lbs the man she was pushing weighs 220 lbs. If she is pregant how did she push a man that big across a room without worry? Anyhow the asst manager told her she cant be pushing the guys like that. She says"he was pushing my stomach"..this resident likes to go thru peoples pockets and she had her jacket on. he wasnt pushing her stomach he was checking her pockets. He does it to all of us. When I was pregnant I just let him have at it. No point in fighting him. Just kept pockets empty. Anyhow, the asst magr tells her again that she just cant be treating the guys like that and cant push them. The asst magr went to answer one of the bathroom door alarms after that and the not sure if pregnant mumbled something at her. when the assit magr came back to dining room not sure if pregnant very rudley said she didnt "push" him he pushed her and was moving him. The asst magr said that her and I saw the whole thing and she pushed him. She then says " I can to whatever the F^&K I want". the asst mangr told her to not say that infront of the guys. not sure if pregant said" I didnt F-ing push him" The manger heard her that time and yelled down the hall"thats enough"..she then says "He f-ing pushed me and I was going to let him do that" the manager was standing at a bathrrom door and ask the asst mangr to cover for him so her could talk to her. She said "Im f-ing out of here" the manger asked if she was walking out? she walked out the door , leaving us under staffed,and that was that. By then I had figured out that drama queen was no wheres to be found either. Guess what? she walked out shortly before that when confronted by manager about yesterday...All of us staff just stood there in shock and I smiled!!! what A wonderful monday. they are both gone!!!!! well later after dinner the manager caught me alone with a one on one his his room. I thought oh shit again. he asked what happened and I told him. I told him about the drama she was spreading, about what they said about him and other managers, about confronting her, about her pushing the resident yesterday, how she keeps throwing comments at me that I know are comments about my Son passing away and how she says things to make cry about him just to be mean.she is the one I wrote about my first day back in the laundry room. She walked in after me that day and said I shouldnt be there, wouldnt want to hurt the baby. she says this knowing he had already passed away and left me in tears..anyhow He said that he wished I had told him sooner about the comments about Max because that would have been takin care of but as for confronting her not to do that again. I told him the mood I was in and I was so angry it was either make a scene or confront her in private..I couldnt hold it in anymore after she made another comment aiming at Max. He said he undrstood just next time call him first and he will take care of it. so as of right now all is good at work (knock on wood) and the two bitches are gone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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