What A Jab To My Heart...
You know something, this just fricking piss's me off! Back on the night of August 7th my ex-fiance and I had what we agree'd to be out final verbal conversation. Towards the end of our long, my emotional, her non emotional conversation we both agree'd to go "no contact", no phone calls, no text's, no nothing! So here we are, it's August 17th, 10 days after that phone call, and what the fuck do I find on my cell phone a couple minutes back, my ex-fiance requested to play "words with friends" with me!?!?!? Yeah, she shot me an invite to play the game on my phone! I was like.....Really? Quickly thinking if inviting an ex-fiance (me) was violating our earlier agreement to stop talking to each other, I tend to think that it was, I just left it alone and deleted the new game request!
But what the hell? What is she trying to do here? I'm starting to have the notion that the grass isn't greener with living with her parents! I'm starting to think that things aren't going her way there and perhaps she's trying to test the waters, on a very small scale, she might be testing if I still care. Because I was thinking that if I went ahead and accepted that game, if I went along with it, that would prove that I would be willing, regardless of level, but I would be willing to do something with her on the other end. I don't know, my suspicions about the testing thing, is the fact that without knowing that my ex-fiance and I went "no contact", without knowing that I had removed her off Facebook, and being a mutual friend to us both, and my friend is still her friend on Facebook, he started rambling on about "how sad" my ex-fiance has been looking lately on Facebook, always looking sad and looking like she just got done crying before every photo! He quickly told me that it doesn't look like she's having any fun over there.
I had to stop him and told him about our "no contact" agreement, I told him that what he's doing isn't making things better. He stopped and said sorry, but what he told me feed my ego "big time"! So she's not happy, this going back home thing appears to be not working out so good, the grass apparently wasn't greener, a couple minutes ago I tied in this information to the words with friends game request. I think she's on a very tiny scale, I think the woman is fishing! She's fishing to see if I still care, and what better way to kind of show that, would have been to accept her game request.
I'm having a funny feeling that if life doesn't turn around for my ex-fiance back there in Ohio, I wouldn't be surprised that say within the next couple weeks to maybe another month she going to contact me and perhaps request to come back, and promise me all kinds of changes from her, she'll start trying to bargain with me, trying to get one foot through the door.
That game request set me back a little, I was just starting to nervously, depressingly starting to come to grips with "no contact" and had taken many baby steps forward towards moving on with my life. And now she's pulling that stuff, talk about poking around a little again inside my heart and mind.
Just fricking perplexed!
But what the hell? What is she trying to do here? I'm starting to have the notion that the grass isn't greener with living with her parents! I'm starting to think that things aren't going her way there and perhaps she's trying to test the waters, on a very small scale, she might be testing if I still care. Because I was thinking that if I went ahead and accepted that game, if I went along with it, that would prove that I would be willing, regardless of level, but I would be willing to do something with her on the other end. I don't know, my suspicions about the testing thing, is the fact that without knowing that my ex-fiance and I went "no contact", without knowing that I had removed her off Facebook, and being a mutual friend to us both, and my friend is still her friend on Facebook, he started rambling on about "how sad" my ex-fiance has been looking lately on Facebook, always looking sad and looking like she just got done crying before every photo! He quickly told me that it doesn't look like she's having any fun over there.
I had to stop him and told him about our "no contact" agreement, I told him that what he's doing isn't making things better. He stopped and said sorry, but what he told me feed my ego "big time"! So she's not happy, this going back home thing appears to be not working out so good, the grass apparently wasn't greener, a couple minutes ago I tied in this information to the words with friends game request. I think she's on a very tiny scale, I think the woman is fishing! She's fishing to see if I still care, and what better way to kind of show that, would have been to accept her game request.
I'm having a funny feeling that if life doesn't turn around for my ex-fiance back there in Ohio, I wouldn't be surprised that say within the next couple weeks to maybe another month she going to contact me and perhaps request to come back, and promise me all kinds of changes from her, she'll start trying to bargain with me, trying to get one foot through the door.
That game request set me back a little, I was just starting to nervously, depressingly starting to come to grips with "no contact" and had taken many baby steps forward towards moving on with my life. And now she's pulling that stuff, talk about poking around a little again inside my heart and mind.
Just fricking perplexed!
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My ex did that too, emailed me something funny and she was laughing about it, this was right after she moved out. Couldn\'t believe it and posted here about it trying to over analyze the meaning of it. Ultimately it meant nothing. Delete it and don\'t respond. She trying to keep u on a string, she doesn\'t want to be with you but wants the benefits of being with you, i.e. Playing games, conversation etc..that\'s where i made my mistake the last 5 months. Any of that nonsense will only hurt you. She doesn\'t need healing, you do! Dont give her your time or companionship, it\'ll just prolong your healing you\'ll end up back to square one. Trust me!
I agree she is testing the waters. I\'ve done the same to this guy I\'ve been on /off with during our no contact. I\'ve sent him game requests to see if he\'d respond. Figure out what you want and if she does call, be prepared with what you want to say. Hugs.
Aaron buddy I know it\'s rough but I\'m going to be blunt here and straight forward and ask you simple question Do you love her? And do you know why she left? Focus on the main problem talk to her in civil way find out what her intentions are but it seems she loves you. She left because she was hurt we are here to fix ourselves so we do not hurt others. Yes they leave but once we work on ourselves their is possibility they come back and this is the opportunity. You should really think if that is the woman you want to spend the rest of life with or it is done for good.