Well it is time for a new journey for me
Evening to anyone who is reading this,and may i add thank you for reading this as well, as you may or may not recall my name is Faye,and I am back on DS after a year as i said in my previous post me and hubby were at odds,well now the leaf has turned and i have asked hubby to get a lawyer yes thats right folks I am in the very beginning of what i doom to be a bitter divorce,after almost 18 years I am tired of the negativity,the mental/emotional abuse,and at 45 yrs of age and life being what it is (to short) i feel the need to make myself happy,instead of putting on the face of everything is fine,it is indeed not fine. I believe hubby is in deniel at this point,and doesnt believe me when i say i am done,we have no children which all in all is a blessing,I am at a crossroads at this point this week will be very hectic for me ,as i need to start looking for my own lawyer as well as a place to live,am i worried yes,am i scared yes,but i am strong,and i believe with the help of my family and friends both in the outside world and here on DS,I will persevere........This decision of mine is not a fly by night thing as i have been thinking about it for over a year,the people in divorce after 20yrs and also life after divorce groups are a very big help to me in the knowledge that i am not alone in this,their insight, views and opinions mean a great deal to me.....more than i believe they even know....I encourage any comments or advice,so please feel free to give it...Thanks again for listening.........Faye
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Hey Faye,
Life, they say, is made from hard decisions and that decision ranks right up there. If you\'ve been thinking about it for that long it wasn\'t made in haste and is probably the thing that you must do.
I do hope for both of you that this doesn\'t become a bitter affair. Nothing good could come from it. Sorry, no words of advice, only encouragement. Wishing all the best for you in the coming days. - Brian
Thank you Brian.
Faye, your comments on my journal brought me to read yours...I hope I can be of help to you in this tough time....but if you\'ve read about me, you know that I, too believe we have to find out happiness...it isn\'t going to come into a dead marriage...Please read anything you like in my journal and friend me if you would like more...
You tried to make a go of your marriage. you took the time to make the decision that was right for you. There will be no second guessing. No did I do the right thing? You seem to be strong with what you want your future to be like and who you want in it.
Is it scary? Yes, I can agree that it is scary going out on your own. But I bet you have been doing a lot of the day to day decisions on your own. You will find what works for you. Good luck.
Thanks trisha.