Well CRAP!!

It has been a while since I have updated my journal. I have learned so much about myself and the foolishness I am willing to put up with.  I have been going to Al-anon for about 4 years now and I have learned so much about myself. I remember going to my first meeting not knowing if I belonged there.
I didn't have any alcoholics or drug users in my life as a child and I still don't as an adult. I wasn't sure how I became so co-dependent. While reading Codependent No More, I came across one of the MANY difinitions of co-dependency. The one that nailed it for me is caretaking. As a kid, my mother was ill with breast cancer. I spent my childhood taking care of her when she was going through chemo and radiation. I spend all of my teenage years from the age of 12 going to appointments with her.  It wasn't all terrible.
After her treatments, we would go shopping and usually spent the afternoon together having fun. But there were times when I was the adult in the relationship. I couldn't really be a kid.  Dont misunderstand. I'm not complaining. I am realizing why I am a codependent. I learned it as a kid and it stayed with me. Yes I am a nurse...aka caretaker! lol
I have been practicing keeping my boundaries up. Unacceptable behavior is no longer tolerated...most of the time. I am a work in progress.  
 My relationship of 3 yrs almost ended last week. Be careful what you ask for when communicating with your High Power! There is no one who challenges me more with codependency issues than my partner.  And it"s because of her and a lot of hard work and praying that I have come as far as I have.  She is a type AAAA personality and I'm a lot more easy going. Again there is no alcohol or drug use in my life or any of my family or friends. But my caretaking is my alcoholic!
I know God has put her in my life for me to, not only love her, but also to confront my CRAP! If I walked away because it is to hard, then God will find someone else to force me to confront my CRAP. 
So here is where it gets a little annoying. I can spot her own codependent ways and defects of character, but I don't point it out to her because it's not my job to. CRAP, CRAP, CRAP!!! And I don't care to start an aeguement. I'm into peach and no drama. However, sometimes with her type AAAA personality, she loves to get into it with me about stupid CRAP that she starts. We are currently working on our resentments toward each other. Yes another lesson God has thrown my way.
Despite all the CRAP, I am grateful God has brought someone into my life that I love and forces me to confront my CRAP. Now if only she could see her own CRAP! hmmmmm....