Welcome to My Marriage

Why is my husband being an ass. For one he claims I'm average even tho I am supposedly the only girl he slept with. How the hell would he know what is average or not? He is a crappy person. He uses me. always puts me down, anything I want to do he tells me that I will fail. He took advantage of me while I was drunk. He threatens to take away his pay check if I don't obey him. If I do anything wrong I will get screwed.
Is it really worth it, living with him making me feel like crap? I am suppose to bow down to his every whim I will be sorry. I am his wife his partner not his slave. That is how a feel, like a slave. Obey him, he uses my faith against me.
Since I am a woman I am suppose to sleep with him when he wants, clean the house by myself, take care of our daughter, go to my job, and cook him dinner.
He may be deployed right now but when he is here in the states, all he does is sleep, eat, go to work, play DND, and repeat. That is all he does. He doesn't help around the house, doesn't help with our daughter, and doesn't cook.
What is wrong with me that I am still with him? He is physically and mentally abusive.
This is a marriage, a partnership, and not master and slave thing. He treats me like his slave.