weight loss and psychotic ex

my weight is down to 125 lbs. i started out 134 then actually GAINED to 139 over thanksgiving - new years. but now it's all gone. in fact, i went bellow my original weight goal by one lbs. didn't mean to. oops. ....oh well. so that's like 14 lbs lost?
told my primary care, that due to the weight loss i'm not doing anymore cleanses every month. instead, i have incorporated parts of the cleanse into my daily diet. basically, i've taken out / reduced a lot of what i used to eat that hurts my stomach and replaced it with raw veggies and fuit. i still eat proteins and starches, but at much smaller portions than before. otherwise my stomch pains come back at horrid levels. i still cut out beef. i went from having horrible stomach pain DAILY to having stomach pain every 2-3 days now. told my primary doc that i want a new GI doc becasue my current one disaproved of my diet change (said it wasn't "FDA approved" and some crap like that).
the case of Matthew and I is getting uglier as time goes by.... i'm starting to suspect that he got an apartment that doesn't allow pets ON PURPOSE just so he could leave his cats here with me, JUST so he could have access to me, JUST so he could have a way to bother me! i think that he doesnt' want to let me out of his life. he tries to cause drama with me anyway possible and now he's back to suicide threats again.
the same reason goes for why he won't give me his adrs so I can MAIL him the money I owe (for the dryer). he wants to come and pick it up IN PERSON. so Saturday, the day before Easter, he tracks me down to the grocery store i was shopping in (stocked me), called me from out side in the parking lot, and demanded i come out side and pay him right then and there! i told him that i was shopping and he'll have to sit there and just wait. he tried to yell at me and cuss as at me but i just told him NO.
Wednesday after he came by to pet his cats and i broke the news to him that i can't afford Heshey's shots (one of his cats) and he should pitch in or deduct what i owe. he flipped the fuck out. 10 mins after he left, was calling my phone the rest of the afternoon to cuss me out, calling me every name in the book, including saying that i'm evil and trying to black mail him. wtf? um....sure..... i kept hanging up on him cuz i don't deserve to be spoken to like that, but he just kept calling back to continue his psychotic behavior. he then tells me that he was suicidal that day and that i have no business bringing issues like that to him. um...ok? also tells me that i should always treat him like he's suicidal and be very sweet to him. YEAHHH RIGHT, BUDDY! BLAH AH AH HA HA HA!!!! 1st of all, i wasn't doing anything wrong to begin with. 2nd of all, if you were truly suicidal, you should have said that you are, and i would have taken you to the ER, buddy!
but he said that whether he is or not, i should treat him like he ALWAYS is and be very kind to him. FAT CHANCE!!! BLAAH HA HA HA HA!!!!!!
i told him that he's so far gone, he truly really needs to seek help. some serious help. that i can't help him and he shuoldn't ask me to be constantly nice to him. he's a really sick individual and really mentally ill. please get help!
i'm thinkin about calling my friend down in Ewa Beach that likes cats... maybe she'll take 2 cats (that are his) and i'm not sure what to do about the dryer debt. mom says we shuld hurry and pay it off and forget the rest of the money we owe him. just get him out of our lives, cuz he's a nightmare. i'm not sure what to do about it.
 
 

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ozfm
ozfm

Oh wow!! I agree with your mum, do whatever you can to have him out of your life. If he can\'t have the cats, tell him either he finds somewhere for them by the end of the month or you\'re getting rid of them (and do it). Change your mobile phone number so he can\'t keep hassling you, and just don\'t answer his calls. If he follows you around and stalks you, call the cops - you don\'t have to put up with that.
I know he has mental health problems, but you are not responsible for them or his behaviour - so please don\'t let him guilt you into anything.
I hope you can get him out of your hair really soon. xo
DreamWishes
DreamWishes

Yep I just changed my number so my own childs father can\'t call me.He too is mental and treats me like shit.He once threatened to kill himself.I asked my friend if he did,should I feel bad or responsible and she said absolutely not.She said suicide is a choice and it\'s not my problem.And besides if he\'s always treating you like crap who cares if you give him that push?Sounds heartless,but it is what is.Find a way to break all ties with him because it makes it that much harder everytime you have to see or hear from him.It\'s a pattern you need to break.I\'m trying to do that same thing right now so I know it\'s easier said than done.Good luck.
fighterwithin
fighterwithin

I am glad you left him. I agree though..... you arent responsible for his cats. Give him a set time, and then find a home for them. Especially since he is being such a ass about the meds the cat needs. He stalks you about a dryer... come on. I would do what you have to do... set up a direct payment to his bank. You dont need any connect with him. I would also call the cops he \"finds you\" out somewhere. He needs help... and I dont want you to become a victim of something horrible. You are in my thoughts.... xooxo
bluesun
bluesun

hmm.... y\'all have given me lots to think about. i\'ll pay off the dryer, find a place for at least ONE of the cats (the other one, Hersheys, is partly blind and needs medical care and all the shelters are full). then once those 2 things are in place, i\'ll change my number. if he stalks me ONE more time, i\'ll call the cops and get a TRO on him.

i\'ve also been advised to let him talk to my voice mail when he gets hostile like that, so it gets recorded and there will be evidence for the courts. problem is, when i DON\'T pick up, he NEVER leaves a message. he\'ll just try calling and calling till i pick up. but at least my phone records will show how many times he calls me in a row to harass me. but will that prove anything??

this whole thing is a damn mess...... i wish his psychiatrist would give him some meds to tranquilize him. i wonder if i can find out who his doctor is and talk to him?