Week 3 Post op

     Today I am week 3 today since my op and feeling about the same as last week physically... I CAN get out of bed on  my own thankfully.... lol Thats nice...      This morning I was alittle disconcerned to find a lot of heavy discharge with fresh blood in it which scared me a llittle...... i wonder whats going on or if thats normal..?I had almost completely finished with that the last couple of days  I thought...? My drain site isnt yet healed but hopfully by next week it might be, and I STILL have  a lot of pain in my bladder, even if i have to go to the washroom only a little even it starts hurting inside as if its really full,  whats with that...!? My doc is away on hoildays so have to wait awhile now I supppose....       I am so so sad today...... Yesterday morning my mother in law passed away with her whole family gathered around her at eight thirty am..  What was supposed to be our last family reunion all together to say our goodbyes turned out to us barely arriving in time just as she went in to the hospital.... She was waiting for all of her children to be gathered together I think before she could to allow herself to leave.... She bravely fought esophageal and stomach cancer that had spread everywhere else and it was such a suden surprise that she passed so quickly... Another tragedy happened to us that you dog lovers might understand out there... yesterday morning as well our beloved little dog passed away at home while we were away dealing with this other stuff............the night before someone hit her with a truck and took off leaving her to limp away dragging her rear end... my step son witnessed it and went to find her for two hours , but she couldnt be found... She was found the next morning under our tree and rusehd to the vets 1 hr away.... The xrayed her and found that he spine was broken as well as loss of reflexes in one leg, muscle damage and her tail was injured as well....To fix her would cost the minimum of $6000 with no guarentess that she would be able to walk or have control of her bodily functions.............. WE dont have that kind of money im afraid and we had to act quickly and give the vet our decsion.....She was euthanised all alone and without me cuddling her and the sunshine has completely left my life  now....I loved that dog so much, and ive failed her by not being there for her....... I don't know what i'm gonna do without her.... Im so depressed right now............ She was only 2 yrs old.... WHAT AM I GONNA DO NOW...................................................?     

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omg! i am sooooo sorry, i am so sad for you right now, my heart is broken. i can\'t imagine how you must be feeling. i hope you guys will be ok without your mother in law. i can\'t imagine how hard that will be, i am glad she got to say goodbye to everyone, even if everyone barley got there in time. i wish i could say something to give you some comfort but i a just in shock with what you have to go through right. i am sooo sorry about your dog, this is just terrible! i can\'t imagine that either...i am sick to my stomache thinking about all of this. that is not fair, i wish you could find the person that did this. i would kill them myself. i remember when i lost my cat on christmas eve a few years ago, and i was beside myself and almost ruined christmas eve cause i was driving all night long until i found her. when i did i couldn\'t believe it, and i know this is no comparison whatsoever, but i was hysterical then and i can\'t imagine going through this now especially with your mom in law passing and you are not well yet. i am sorry you are not feeling like you should be. call your doctors office and leave a thousand messages if you have to. you need to be better, you have to much on your plate right now, how bad is your bleeding? is it spotting? mine was pretty fresh blood the beggining of my third week. i was very scared, but it lasted just a few days, just spotting and discharge. i haven\'t had any in a full week and a half now so i hope it stops for you. when is your post op appointment? if you haven\'t been, tell them you want to put a rush on it now! you don\'t need to wait any longer..what meds did they put you on for the bladder infection? you may need another round if you are in pain, cause mine was about a week and then i haven\'t had nothing since, not even a spasm. i will pray for you guys, i wish i could do something for yas. my heart goes out, all the way to canada........i know this may not be appropriate to suggest...but i was in the library the other day and my 10 year old daughter had questions about death so i checked out a kids book and in the book had beautiful words of comfort about heaven and how our animals have a special place up there. maybe reading something special like that might give you even just a shred of comfort. i am soooooo sorry:(
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Oh Sharon...I am SO sorry......I have shed a tear.....such dreadful things for you to deal with. Your mother in law and then the family dog!!!!! Im So sorry...I really dont know what else to say.....sorry chick.

My thoughts are with you....Hugs
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