wearing the mask
Well Yesterday was the first time i saw my wife in a couple weeks, and this was only for about 10 minutes because i was taking my daughter to her counselors. I stopped at her request, so so could just say hi.
it was nice to see them play for a little bit. She had earlier said she wanted to stay in our travel trailer there where is a staying right now. My lawyer had put quite a few restrictions on that but she wanted it without following any of the rules set up. she told me that we didnt have to do what they said and that i should just get rid of my attorney. And when I called and told my attorney about her just wanting to come get it, he said wait and then called her attorney who said they had been trying to get a hold of her but she never returned their calls. So needless to say, i was the bad guy again.
Then one of her girlfriends sent her a text, that really summed everything up and that was really a nice text just telling her that they were praying for us. My wife responded by telling her to stop texting her about us. she said this is between God her and me.
but while i was there, the mask stayed on. at the counselors office, it fell off, but i put it back on when i left.
this whole thing sux.
it was nice to see them play for a little bit. She had earlier said she wanted to stay in our travel trailer there where is a staying right now. My lawyer had put quite a few restrictions on that but she wanted it without following any of the rules set up. she told me that we didnt have to do what they said and that i should just get rid of my attorney. And when I called and told my attorney about her just wanting to come get it, he said wait and then called her attorney who said they had been trying to get a hold of her but she never returned their calls. So needless to say, i was the bad guy again.
Then one of her girlfriends sent her a text, that really summed everything up and that was really a nice text just telling her that they were praying for us. My wife responded by telling her to stop texting her about us. she said this is between God her and me.
but while i was there, the mask stayed on. at the counselors office, it fell off, but i put it back on when i left.
this whole thing sux.
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Yes, it does suck, BUT you have GOT to get away from this \"bad guy\" thing. You are NOT the bad guy! Be the SMART GUY instead! She has a lawyer and you do, too. Let THEM duke it out. As for you, keep your distance, please.
She showed exactly what her plan is and why she was playing nice. She wants you to do what she wants you to do and get rid of your attorney since she is being told to do what she doesnt want to do. Get it? You are not the bad guy here. Just because she made a mess and you wont bend over backward to make things easier for her now and do as she wants doesnt make you the bad guy. It makes you NOT the push over she wants you to be. Stand firm!!!
A resounding \"I agree\" to what Cowgirl and Nana said.
You are not the bad guy at all. You are responding to the situation you have been presented with. You are taking the actions that are less damaging to your daughter and you.
The rules exist for a reason. They protect all parties, and enforce a code of conduct. Something she has shown you she has no desire to do.
Don\'t cave into her.
Take care your daughter and yourself first.
And kudos for keeping the mask on in front of her.
Someday that mask will be closer to reality.
And above all else, take your emotions OUT of the situation. Letting the lawyers duke it out is one way to do that. Keep a cheerful countenance, even if you don\'t feel it, and even if the situation is negative. The dividends from doing that will come later.