We have a place to go!!
God is so good! I had to update all you sweet ladies to let you know that after a roller coaster ride from Hades, our church has helped us rent a house for 6 months, so Lily can get here safely!!! PRAISE GOD!!!! If Jason doesn't have a job by then, we are back to homeless and probably going to be committed anyway. lol
As far as our mortgage company, I can only say they will be financing Casey Anthony's little patch of hell when she gets there, because they are pure evil, too. From stories about Citimortgage that I have heard since, we are very very lucky! They have been far better to us (in their unscrupulous evil actions) than they have been to other people.
We have applied for every program out there and always get rejected for one stupid unrelated detail after another. The last one (which was supposed to help ALL unemployed people save their homes) disqualified us because my husband made a lot of money in 2009. Uh...yeah.. What in the heck does that have to do with 2010, when he lost his job? Or the $50k in medical we paid that year? Hello?!? Morons. LOL
The important thing is that we can move now...and Lily will have a home to come home to.
Of course I am on strict bed rest and could not go "house hunting" with DH & the girls after our church offered to help. They picked this house based on the willingness of the owner to rent to us (hard to find in our situation) and based on comparing it to the other options available to us. I decided to trade my OB appointment tomorrow for a chance to see the house we are moving to and when I was inside for about 2 mins, my eyes started swelling, itching, watering like faucets and my throat started closing...I broke out in hives. There is only one thing that does that to me...cigarette smoke. I stepped back outside and asked my husband what I had already asked several times...was there ANY indication the house had been smoked in? (In the entry way, there was no smell). He said "Only in the garage." Nice. So, I went back in when symptoms subsided and downstairs DOES smell heavily of smoke (that is where the garage entrance is, but the door had been closed for days). Of course, I was instantly overcome with allergic reaction again and had to leave.
So, we are moving to a house that will make me feel miserable physically. The homeowner had already painted the house and steam cleaned the carpets. DH is there now trying white vinegar tricks and other things he looked up online. I wanted to bludgeon him for withholding the information that the garage had been smoked in...that would be a major issue for my allergies....and I don't think it was just the garage. Tenants must have lied.
A friend said that maybe I am just sensitive to smells because of pregnancy, sure...but does that make my tell-tale reaction to cigarette smoke any different?!? LOL I will still be gasping for air & covered in hives! I am on so many meds already to try to keep Lily inside me...I don't want to add allergy medications. Grrr.
So, that leads me to why I have spent today crying nonstop. It is my birthday. This is my 5th one without a word from my oldest son. My youngest son is in Heaven. A week from today, my son turns 22, and he will ignore the cards we send him, except to probably utter a curse about us as he tosses them in the garbage. I can't help our family move. I can't clean the house we are moving to or line the shelves or do anything I would normally do.
I know..."me, myself and I"...this sounds horribly selfish. I'm sorry. It just feels like a ton of bricks right now. We have lost things that matter (children) and things that shouldn't (our home, car, family heirlooms), and things that don't (household helpful belongings). I know that God is in control. I am so SO SO SO GRATEFUL that He provided us with a place to go...and who knows? Maybe we will get to keep our house eventually, if they develop a program for people like us...who used to make good money...and kept their mortgage current...and got blindsided with medical problems out the wazoo and the first ever experience of unemployment. I am just going to try to take it one minute at a time.
My blessings: DH and my children...I am grateful for every minute I have with them (or HAD with them), and will always long for more minutes with them. Our church who generously offered to help us find a home. The fact that we now have a home to go to and to bring Lily home to..God willing. My furry boys...who get to stay with us. All of you DS ladies who sent hugs, and messages, and texts and kept us in your prayers!!!
Thank you for all of your love and support!
As far as our mortgage company, I can only say they will be financing Casey Anthony's little patch of hell when she gets there, because they are pure evil, too. From stories about Citimortgage that I have heard since, we are very very lucky! They have been far better to us (in their unscrupulous evil actions) than they have been to other people.
We have applied for every program out there and always get rejected for one stupid unrelated detail after another. The last one (which was supposed to help ALL unemployed people save their homes) disqualified us because my husband made a lot of money in 2009. Uh...yeah.. What in the heck does that have to do with 2010, when he lost his job? Or the $50k in medical we paid that year? Hello?!? Morons. LOL
The important thing is that we can move now...and Lily will have a home to come home to.
Of course I am on strict bed rest and could not go "house hunting" with DH & the girls after our church offered to help. They picked this house based on the willingness of the owner to rent to us (hard to find in our situation) and based on comparing it to the other options available to us. I decided to trade my OB appointment tomorrow for a chance to see the house we are moving to and when I was inside for about 2 mins, my eyes started swelling, itching, watering like faucets and my throat started closing...I broke out in hives. There is only one thing that does that to me...cigarette smoke. I stepped back outside and asked my husband what I had already asked several times...was there ANY indication the house had been smoked in? (In the entry way, there was no smell). He said "Only in the garage." Nice. So, I went back in when symptoms subsided and downstairs DOES smell heavily of smoke (that is where the garage entrance is, but the door had been closed for days). Of course, I was instantly overcome with allergic reaction again and had to leave.
So, we are moving to a house that will make me feel miserable physically. The homeowner had already painted the house and steam cleaned the carpets. DH is there now trying white vinegar tricks and other things he looked up online. I wanted to bludgeon him for withholding the information that the garage had been smoked in...that would be a major issue for my allergies....and I don't think it was just the garage. Tenants must have lied.
A friend said that maybe I am just sensitive to smells because of pregnancy, sure...but does that make my tell-tale reaction to cigarette smoke any different?!? LOL I will still be gasping for air & covered in hives! I am on so many meds already to try to keep Lily inside me...I don't want to add allergy medications. Grrr.
So, that leads me to why I have spent today crying nonstop. It is my birthday. This is my 5th one without a word from my oldest son. My youngest son is in Heaven. A week from today, my son turns 22, and he will ignore the cards we send him, except to probably utter a curse about us as he tosses them in the garbage. I can't help our family move. I can't clean the house we are moving to or line the shelves or do anything I would normally do.
I know..."me, myself and I"...this sounds horribly selfish. I'm sorry. It just feels like a ton of bricks right now. We have lost things that matter (children) and things that shouldn't (our home, car, family heirlooms), and things that don't (household helpful belongings). I know that God is in control. I am so SO SO SO GRATEFUL that He provided us with a place to go...and who knows? Maybe we will get to keep our house eventually, if they develop a program for people like us...who used to make good money...and kept their mortgage current...and got blindsided with medical problems out the wazoo and the first ever experience of unemployment. I am just going to try to take it one minute at a time.
My blessings: DH and my children...I am grateful for every minute I have with them (or HAD with them), and will always long for more minutes with them. Our church who generously offered to help us find a home. The fact that we now have a home to go to and to bring Lily home to..God willing. My furry boys...who get to stay with us. All of you DS ladies who sent hugs, and messages, and texts and kept us in your prayers!!!
Thank you for all of your love and support!
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YAY So happy to hear from you and so happy that you have a place to go. I am with you on the smoke I can tell from a mile away if someone has been smoking. I pray that your allergies subside and the cleaning tricks work! ((Hugs))
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!! I am so releived you have a home, so I can imagine how you feel!!!!!! Everything else will work out. I pray those white viniger tricks work and you can be comfortable in your new home. This is just a temp thing and will be over before you know it. What doesnt kill us will make us stronger. I hope that DH is getting better. I know you have been struggling with him. I hope he can now find som epeace and I PRAY for a job oppertunity FAST!!!!!!!!! Give lilly a pat for me! Im still pryaing until she gets here safe and you guys are back on your feet.
Happy birthday! i am so sorry that you guys are struggling so hard. my parents are going through the same thing. both of them got laid off and my sister and her family are living with them and its only a matter of time before they lose their house. times are hard, but at least you have your faith. keep praying and i will pray for you and dh and lily! :)
Happy Birthday!!! I wish I lived closer and could clean the house from top to bottom for you. Perhaps, some of your church members will go in and clean it for you.
I am so happy that you and Lily are doing well. I have had a sensitive nose since before my first pregnancy. I break out in hives all the time.
God Is Good!!!!
Hugs, Love & Rainbows!!!
Nneka
I was wondering how you were doing. :) I\'m glad you have a house to move to, but very sorry that your allergies will be so miserable. I will pray that your husband finds a job soon. But I\'m very glad to hear you and Lily are still hanging in.
wow, so have so much going on!!
happy b day, you and your family including the doggies are in my prayers , always
xoxo
Happy Birthday! I\'m glad you have a place to live (if even just for a while) and I hope DH can get rid of the smell!
Happy Birthday!!! Glad that you have a place to live and I hope your allergies get better staying there. I\'ll continue to pray for you!!
Happy Birthday!!! Keep your faith--things WILL improve--what a blessing to have a home secured! Your husband WILL find employment again, and your family WILL be able to get back on firmer ground. You are a strong, strong woman and Lily will be blessed to be entering your family! Do what you can and pray for those things that you need help with. Health is the greatest blessing of all, so I hope that you will be able to air the house out enough to live there comfortably!
Happy birthday...I truly hope this year turns out better than the months preceding it. Total bummer on the smoke problem at the new house, but I hope your DH can make it more tolerable. You are in my prayers...take care of yourself and that baby.
I\'m so happy to hear an update Id been worried not hearing anything and am happier to hear you have somewhere for 6 months
Happy birthday
Happy Birthday, God is good. I wish you all the very best in your new home and hope that DH can sort out the smell.....always somethign huh?! God bless
Well, while not the house highest on your list better htan the campground you were thinking you would be living in. Perhaps once the hosue is clean and allowed to air out for a while all the smoke issues will be less. You are 100% right about being thankful for hte thingsthat matter most. Your DH and your family and bringing that little girl into this world. Once the pregnancy is completed you can take on the world but until then just truct and have faith that all will work out as God sees fit. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I hope you have a good one and just celebrate being together and enjoy the day with your family. Will continue to hope and pray that DH finds a job asap so that you guys can continue to move forward. Glad to hear you are all doing okay. I was thinking about you over the last few weeks as June 30th approached and passed and you hadn\'t posted anything. XO :)
Good to hear from you! I am glad you found a house and sorry that it bothers your allergies so much. I think I\'ve heard that simmering a cut lemon in water on the stove helps. I sure hope something does! That sounds awful and it is one more thing you don\'t need to worry about.
Happy birthday to you! I hope your relationship with your son is soon mended. That must be so sad and stressful.
Sending hope and wishing you many blessings.
So good to see you back on here! I was starting to get worried about you. Even better, so good to hear that you have a place to go!