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I am furious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Okay, you know how I say that I love my job, well I still do regardless, but am very upset at my supervisor. He goes around the point instead of right to it. For example, I hear from him that he would not classify me in trouble because of a pointless meeting that includes the director, which does not need to happen. Another example, he does not like the word confront, yet he does that a lot with anyone. Ugggghhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Okay, now you read earlier that I have a meeting with my Supervisor and the Director tomorrow. They are "concerned" even when he does not call it that to my face. Hmmmm............ The discussion/topics are insubordinate communication, innapropriate e-mails, relationship to coworkers, and one other one that I cannot remember. He was wondering what is "causing" all the miscommunication between us, which is all through e-mails, but not in person. I have no choice but to tell him that I have a history of being physically, emotionally, and sexually abused. I really don't want to say that, but it explains the root of my behavior even more so. I also will let them know that I am in counseling as well as his lack of consistency as my Supervisor, which you saw in the beginning. I am starting to think he can't take criticism, but I sure can. Why????? I called up early in the night to see if I could have my fiance' come because he knows how I work and as a witness. He did not once call back. Uggghhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have now determined that he is coming so he can vouch for me because this meeting is a waste of time, literally. I was even kind of hoping he would send an e-mail just to verify that he recieved it, but nope. I am so frustrated right now because he is making a mountain out of a mole hill. Each time he talked to me about these things, I stopped it immediately. I was not taught in school to be "professional" when it comes to e-mails. No one never taught me that. According to him, I didn't. Well, I can't trust him or anyone else because at any job I have had them go behind my back, and it HURTS. How else am I supposed to react? He appeared standoffish anyways when I arrived, so I knew something was up. Now it obviously has effected my work; when it shouldn't have to begin with. I printed up most of my e-mails that couild come across as what I mentioned above, but are borderline to some of them too. My Supervisor and I agree that it is all a miscommunication. Do you see why I don't see the point in the meeting? Yet, we already have solved the problem. Why does anyone else need to be involved? Uggggghhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY POINT-identify what the issue is,document everything and be a good listener, don\'t assume anything, get clarification of the issue if you do not understand right and demonstrate your ability to resolve the issue. Matter of fact, explain that maybe you need a reasonable accommodation for your work enviroment in order for you to perfrom your duties since there seems to be so much miscommunication. A reasonable accommodation is a system that could help you and/or supervisor have better communication//what could create a better enviroment for you? Do you think that you are working in a hostile work enviroment due to the miscommunication with your Supervisor?
Just think about it at least prior to the meeting, be effective is the key point.
Hugs Take it one day at a time. E-mails are not proffesional at all. He should know that if he is a supervisor. Hope this will be resolved and over quickly. Stay strong!