Victory did NOT taste so sweet.

Yesterday everything finally caught up with him and for the first time in 6 months he hit a brick wall. I mean literally he was stopped dead in his tracks like a deer caught in the headlights he was frozen. As he stood in front of me tears streaming down his face as he was asking me over and over how I could do this to him? How was he going to live? Funny how everything seems to have come full circle those are the exact same questions I have been asking him and myself over and over again the past 6 months. My head just wanted to say " Ha how does it feel to realize that your life as you know it is GONE? Who cares how you feel now you didn't give a rats butt how I have been feeling or surviving these past 6 months so choke on it!!!!!!
My heart always seems to win over my head everytime and I just sat there and told him " You knew this day had to come one day, the day when all your stupid, irresponsible, irrational, selfish behavoir and choices would catch up with you. I'm not trying to bleed you dry as he put it i'm simply getting what I deserve after 22 years of being a good loving wife and mother. I want what is fair and just and what I need so Austin and I can live a happy future and I will be safe and secure in raising him. Sorry if it puts a dent in your social life but everything is a trade off. You traded me and your kids in for the swinging single life and now we know at what cost. Oh and fairy godmother if your reading this the number is UNBELIEVABLE I will send you a private message to give details. Anyway my son stays with me everything left in the home when he left I keep he also has to pay half of Shelby's college tuition. Pretty much everything I asked for I got.
Finally a little justice for the broken hearted and abandoned. I have been praying for this for so long I thought of all kinds of things I was going to say and laugh and say  TOLD YA SO!! TOLD YA SO!!! TOLD YA SO!!!! How's that new life working out for you now? Then to my utter suprise I felt my heart breaking for him???? I felt sort of sorry for him???? Why do I feel sad for him? This is what I  have been waiting for to look him straight in the face and say " Your fun in the sun days are over now your pain begins" I just couldn't say anything but " This was all your choice just remember that everytime you write that check every month" Ok so I got a little dig in. When he left most likely to stop at the closet bar for his last big drinking night out I just kept saying to myself " T what's wrong with you don't you feel sorry for him he has not shed one tear for you in 6 months. I guess that's just another thing I have that he doesn't A HEART!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So now I can start planning stuff my future and start leaving the past where it belongs in the PAST. Can't wait for summer vacation from school I was offered a job as a summer camp director so Austin can go with me for FREE and I will be able to go on all the field trips with him and just have a super fun summer. We are planning a beach trip in july and now I know how much money I will have each month coming in from my dear friends of child support inforcment. I think I can start to breathe now a little easier and sleep a little better. I feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders and even though I know I made it over the first few hills there are still mountains to climb but I will make it...............

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trisha9054
trisha9054

I am so happy for you. I understand what you are feeling. My ex didn\'t hit that brick wall until our last court hearing because he felt entitled to cut my alimony in half. The man who came into court that day all cocky and sure of himself was left sitting on a bench with his head in his hands and almost resting on his knees. Still I felt some pity for what he has done to himself, the new wife, our daughter. For 33 years I was the one who paid the bills and did without if the money was short. I was the one who paid his child support out of our money. He owed me big time.

Now you can start building your new life for you and Austin. Just a cautionary word here. Save some money for the next court hearing. If I hadn\'t done that I would have lost my farm while I waited that year to get my alimony back. Once your ex thinks he has recovered from this he may cause you some trouble. I pray you won\'t be back in court and if not you will have a tidy bit of savings for something special.

Congratulations for getting what you need to take care of yourself and the children. I can hear your joy in this posting. You have fun this summer with Austin. You\'ve earned this time for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Is your divorce final now?

Huge congratulations on the positive things that are happening for you now!
new2free
new2free

Congratulations this is great news!! But as T says, just because it is all decided in court, it does not mean he may not try to give you some trouble down the road. Just be prepared for it, in case it happens. If it doesn\'t it will be a bonus!
I am really happy for you, and I hope you can start to really enjoy life again!
maggieb1958
maggieb1958

Congrats to you .This is very good news.Now you can worry about what you want .You must be relieved to know that you will receive your money and that are set with a summer job.
:) Maggie
lori47
lori47

Good for you. I\'m happy that you did get what you deserve. I understand how you still feel bad for him. Once your emotions for him are gone, then it will become a business transactions. You weren\'t out to screw him over (even though he would have deserved it), you just wanted what was fair.
hurtinandhealin2560
hurtinandhealin2560

When the day of reckoning arrives, they often realize that destroying marriages and lives has a huge price. My ex went happily along too--not paying bills, wining and dining the skank ho/now wife--until judgement day arrived in the form of a monthly spousal support check to me during our separation. Word from the ex-in laws was he absolutely hated writing that check to me~lol!

I get that you still feel sorry for him because you still love him. I also had so many things I wanted to say to my ex, but a simple \"You chose this life\" is all I could say.

I hope you will find the same happiness, but as Trisha said, bank a little money. Just because the court papers say so doesn\'t mean a person will actually pay.

Sending you hugs!! Have fun with your son!