Very Focused and Busy Day......

I really suprised myself today. I had so much to do one thing after the other. I left my apt at 7:45 and got back at 5:00. So when my phone began ringing at 8:00 am and it was stbx I kept saying to myself " T don't answer don't answer don't answer." You must stay focused today you took time off work to deal with everything today DON'T WASTE IT. I knew just the sound of his voice would send me straight back to bed. I didn't answer NO CONTACT NO CONTACT NO CONTACT. I went to my first 2 appointments the Doctors then to school to start to set up my Music Classroom. Very fun I got to see some of my Teacher friends I haven't seen since May. Then on the way to court to deal with setting up my direct deposit account for my support payments here comes the text messages. T answer your phone please, T answer your phone please, T PICK UP YOUR DAMM PHONE. Stay focused, stay focused, stay focused.
I did NO CONTACT, NO CONTACT, NO CONTACT. The problem with talking to yourself so FORCEFULLY AND WITH SUCH CONVICTION probably a good idea to make sure there are no other cars around you. The people in the car at the stop light next to me most likely were thinking " Oh Lord she is definately OFF HER MEDICATION!!! So on I went next stop the Gym to work off the donut and 3 cups of coffee I had for lunch. After my workout I was all ready for my last stop the THERAPIST!!!!! YEAH!!!!! I LOVE THERAPY DAY!!!!!! But, just as I was pulling up the phone rang again I looked at the caller ID with a knot in my stomache to see with my great suprise it was Austin. "Hi baby I said mommy will be home soon" " Oh hi mom dad wanted me to tell you to please call him soon ok" " Ok sweetie" see you soon. OMG RIGHT!!!!! I KEPT THE NO CONTACT but I have to admit I have been crawling out of my skin to know what he wanted. Needless to say my Therapist had to earn her money today........... I have to give myself a BIG pat on the back today... SNAPS TO ME.........

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deleted_user
deleted_user

I am so proud of you! I am sure it wasn\'t easy but you did the right thing. We are not here to cater to them. They made their choice to leave so that means we DON\'T need to answer to them! You go girl!
KRKing911
KRKing911

You are awesome!!! Very Good. I know it must be killing you - I\'m sure you\'ll find out what he wanted sometime today. I\'m very curious too. GREAT JOB.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Great job. PLEASE keep up the good work
CowgirlKathi
CowgirlKathi

You get 10 GOLD STARS for NOT picking up that phone or responding to his stupid text messages! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!
If you have told him \"if you have something to say, you can say it THROUGH MY ATTORNEY\" then STICK TO YOUR GUNS. You know in your heart and mind that all he wanted was to TORMENT YOU in some small way. You KNOW what ANY CONTACT with him DOES TO YOU!

YOU must CONTINUE TO BE THE ADULT in this situation (because we KNOW who you are dealing with) and ADULTS DO NOT GIVE IN TO PETULANT CHILDREN!

Love you! So proud of you for this!
trisha9054
trisha9054

All I can add to this is you did good. It would have been nice if he hadn\'t put Austin in the middle. Do you have Austin seeing a therapist? Your son might need that at some point in this divorce.
KRKing911
KRKing911

Hi, did you ever find out what he wanted?
disneymom65
disneymom65

I did find out what he wanted through our older son Brandon. He said Dad came by my store to ask if you were ok because he was frantically trying to reach me. So my son says well is everything ok? He says oh yah I just needed to hear her voice... WHAT THE HELL WAS THAT ALL ABOUT??????