Verbal Abuse
My son is verbally abusing me on a regular basis. As a matter of fact all three of them talk down to me. My dad even treats me like an imbecile. I am so-o tired of being called "Crazy"! Yes, when they cuss at me or yell at me I cry and get upset. But, apparently I am not allowed to be angry, upset or even give them any advice or tell how to do something or what not to do. I am not allowed to be a Parent!!! They treat me like an unwanted child! I'm getting called a "Bitch" and "Crazy" every day. Because they know those are my trigger words. And then there is the "whatever" , just dismissing my feelings completely.
I can't stand it anymore. My youngest is 19. Doesn't have a driver's license, won't look for a job or go to school. He has been helping me at the shop. But, the shop is closing in one week. How can I make him understand that he has to begin his life. Sitting in a room playing video games and spending all your time with your mother is not a good thing. I know he is depressed, but I can't help him. He won't listen to a word I say. If he would get a job or go to school he would make friends and have a life. Then maybe he wouldn't be so angry.
This has been causing me a lot of problems (as if I didn't have enough to begin with). It takes a lot of time out of my day to have an anxiety attack. Today I was planning on going to the pool, since I got off early from work, now my stomach hurts and I am crying.
I just don't know what to di or how to desl with this problem.
My eldest son just walked in and admonished his brother for his treatment of me. I know that later I will get yelled at for talking to Tyler about it. Ben always say's "Why do you have to go running to Tyler all the time?". Well, if I thought calling his father would work I would do that. But that is a waste of time. His dad is 1600 miles away and has been most of the boys life. So, Tyler is the man of the family. Thank God he didn't gp to prison. This family couldn't make it without him!!
And that's it...that's who I turn to in these kind of situations, God. As Tyler does. I only wish I had been a better mother and made sure that Ben went to church (even though I have always worked on sundays). I could have done better.
I feel like I have been a terrible parent. One son was looking at a prison sentance, the other two do not believe in God and verbally abuse me.
If anyone has any advice for me Please don't hesitate to share. I can use all the help I can get.
I can't stand it anymore. My youngest is 19. Doesn't have a driver's license, won't look for a job or go to school. He has been helping me at the shop. But, the shop is closing in one week. How can I make him understand that he has to begin his life. Sitting in a room playing video games and spending all your time with your mother is not a good thing. I know he is depressed, but I can't help him. He won't listen to a word I say. If he would get a job or go to school he would make friends and have a life. Then maybe he wouldn't be so angry.
This has been causing me a lot of problems (as if I didn't have enough to begin with). It takes a lot of time out of my day to have an anxiety attack. Today I was planning on going to the pool, since I got off early from work, now my stomach hurts and I am crying.
I just don't know what to di or how to desl with this problem.
My eldest son just walked in and admonished his brother for his treatment of me. I know that later I will get yelled at for talking to Tyler about it. Ben always say's "Why do you have to go running to Tyler all the time?". Well, if I thought calling his father would work I would do that. But that is a waste of time. His dad is 1600 miles away and has been most of the boys life. So, Tyler is the man of the family. Thank God he didn't gp to prison. This family couldn't make it without him!!
And that's it...that's who I turn to in these kind of situations, God. As Tyler does. I only wish I had been a better mother and made sure that Ben went to church (even though I have always worked on sundays). I could have done better.
I feel like I have been a terrible parent. One son was looking at a prison sentance, the other two do not believe in God and verbally abuse me.
If anyone has any advice for me Please don't hesitate to share. I can use all the help I can get.
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