Valentine's Day
I made my mind up that I was going to make valentines day good this year. I have many things to be thankful for.
The A did not take place over valentines past, so it's all mine. In years past we've never done anything big anyway, a card, some candy or flowers, I've bought myself sexy lingerie,as a gift for H :). But really, we would give the kids valentines and celebrate more with them than anything.
So I made up my mind we were going to have fun this year, for us.
I know H got me a gift already, he's been busting at the seams since Friday. He usually is the shop day of kind of guy,, anniversaries, bdays etc, cuz he can't stand waiting to give gifts. So this is a little torture for him :) I enjoy that :)
So I made up my mind.
I already bought his chocolates, he's more of a chocoholic than me, ghiradeli dark with caramel. And I found some cute little pink champagne flutes with hearts on them, I plan on a trip to the liquor store today:)
I already told H some weeks back ,before my bday, that I didn't want any cards from him, as he doesnt really read them. And Tow sent him mushy cards. I told him a love letter would be nice. We'll see if he delivers on that. Our anniversary is couple more weeks away, so he has time still :).
Anyway, I knew just for the fact that she sent him cards, and from others on the board that I should stay away from them..
Didn't happen. I looked at cards the other day and left walgreens wanting to hit somebody. Ick.
Soulmates, blech, faithfulness ugh,
I knew better, and I had made up my mind, damnit.
So I also have been working on a gift for H, thanks to my girls who got me hooked on pintrest:)
I actually am excited about it.
I also spent the day yesterday deep spring cleaning my bedroom ( yes I know it was a snow day yesterday, lol) . washed all the curtains, waxed the floor, cleaned out h's dresser drawers, they are always a mess. I got candles from bath n body in 'my scent' that h loves.
I had made up my mind this was going to be a good valentine's day.
As the day went on yesterday I started not feeling well. Bloated, irritable, anxious, chest pain, and plain old weepy. Feeling persisted all evening. H asked several times if I was ok, I chalked it up to heartburn from the spicy pork chile i made, lol.
Honestly idk what is heartburn, what is pms, since I STILL haven't started, and what is anxiety.
Tossed and turned all night, woke up feeling same.
I still have chores and errands to finish up today, my duvet cover is in the wash now.
All I want to do is sit here and cry.
I had made up my mind damnit.
The A did not take place over valentines past, so it's all mine. In years past we've never done anything big anyway, a card, some candy or flowers, I've bought myself sexy lingerie,as a gift for H :). But really, we would give the kids valentines and celebrate more with them than anything.
So I made up my mind we were going to have fun this year, for us.
I know H got me a gift already, he's been busting at the seams since Friday. He usually is the shop day of kind of guy,, anniversaries, bdays etc, cuz he can't stand waiting to give gifts. So this is a little torture for him :) I enjoy that :)
So I made up my mind.
I already bought his chocolates, he's more of a chocoholic than me, ghiradeli dark with caramel. And I found some cute little pink champagne flutes with hearts on them, I plan on a trip to the liquor store today:)
I already told H some weeks back ,before my bday, that I didn't want any cards from him, as he doesnt really read them. And Tow sent him mushy cards. I told him a love letter would be nice. We'll see if he delivers on that. Our anniversary is couple more weeks away, so he has time still :).
Anyway, I knew just for the fact that she sent him cards, and from others on the board that I should stay away from them..
Didn't happen. I looked at cards the other day and left walgreens wanting to hit somebody. Ick.
Soulmates, blech, faithfulness ugh,
I knew better, and I had made up my mind, damnit.
So I also have been working on a gift for H, thanks to my girls who got me hooked on pintrest:)
I actually am excited about it.
I also spent the day yesterday deep spring cleaning my bedroom ( yes I know it was a snow day yesterday, lol) . washed all the curtains, waxed the floor, cleaned out h's dresser drawers, they are always a mess. I got candles from bath n body in 'my scent' that h loves.
I had made up my mind this was going to be a good valentine's day.
As the day went on yesterday I started not feeling well. Bloated, irritable, anxious, chest pain, and plain old weepy. Feeling persisted all evening. H asked several times if I was ok, I chalked it up to heartburn from the spicy pork chile i made, lol.
Honestly idk what is heartburn, what is pms, since I STILL haven't started, and what is anxiety.
Tossed and turned all night, woke up feeling same.
I still have chores and errands to finish up today, my duvet cover is in the wash now.
All I want to do is sit here and cry.
I had made up my mind damnit.
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Maybe the expectations are causing anxiety. Break into that champagne, kick back and release the pressure. You have done so much andim sure H will appreciate as much as he is capable to. You just inspired me to clean my bedroom. He hates a messy room and our room is always messy. It\'s tiny and annoying to clean.
Imhearnyou on the cards and I didn\'t get one for mine either. I don\'t know what to write, especially since I wasnannoyed with him yesterday and realized we still have so much shit to work on.
I set his coffee up and made him a pink mini corn bread loaf (along with one for each of my kids). I used heart plates and napkins and got him his fav chocolate, toiler one. I also put a heart balloon and chocolate rose in his car. But now I will add the cleanish bedroom as a special treat.
Maybe you should treat yourself to a glass of wine and hot bath to relax. And remember that he is a man and may not see each thing you have done, and may not put in quite the same effort. But if it is different and at all better than the past, you are ahead of the game.
I friggin hate the greeting card industry for inventing Vday! We all have to stop making it so important. Besides, I want my H to show me he loves me EVERYDAY, not just one stupid made up holiday day! Forget it\'s vday. Forget stupid cards. Just love each other! So let it be written; so let it be done! lol
I just posted that I made the same mistkae of looking for a card. I felt like the others that were standing around could see the horror on my face. Have a great day, Kansas. I hope you\'re feeling better. Please let us know what he gave you, that he\'s so excited about!
You are MORE than entitled to feel ll kinds of sadness & confusion. It\'s still so soon & so fresh/raw for you. Forget the chores, drop them. Get out of the house . Pamper yourself, primp & go to the liquor store & anywhere else you feel like. Can\'t tell you how many times I just window shopped AND how much lingerie & clothing I bought for myself just to look and feel good. But it was also therapeutic to be away from home & just talk to other people. Sometimes it\'s the isolation that just snowballs the negative.
Hopefully ithe heartburn is just that .
Listen, this is a day you H should be going all - out for & I\'m betting he just wants you to take the time you need to relax.
My Dday was Dec 2010 but the worst of the truth came out mid-Jan 2011. I was packed & a foot out the door but H stopped me. He knocked himself out to make that V-day a launch pad for rebuilding. Fancy hotel & the works. I did nothing but resolve to be open to letting him try & enjoying the efforts. Ipoint is , I think that\'s where you should be right now too.
Hope you feel better & haves great night!
Don\'t stress yourself out, girlie! Focus not on making it a good Valentine\'s day, but loving him, which a daily thing you\'ve done. And I have to say you are doing a fantastic job at it. The mere fact that you are working this out together means you do love him and he loves you. That\'s what real love is, slogging through the bad stuff together. He\'s busting at the seams to give you a gift, how sweet is that! Carry that thought with you and relax. Doing all the extra Valentine-ish stuff isn\'t going to make a difference in how he feels about you. He just wants to help you feel happy and loved and this gift is just one more tool he\'s using to accomplish that today. Tomorrow he\'s taking out the trash. Not as exciting, but still a loving gesture, ya know what I mean, jelly bean?
Hugs, hugs, and more hugs!
Hmmm....heartburn, icky feeling, late....you POAS yet?
I have not gotten a thing done all day. I promised my fam Lasagna. I had to go out and get frozen. I slept till noon. Hope H isnt pissed when he get home. I am just blah today... sooo I feel ya girl
Thanks guys.
Lotus you make me lmao, no poas, tubes tied, think more likely menopause and stress !
I actually got most of chores done, gift finished , made it to liquor store. Now just waiting on my hair to dry so I can fix it, and for H to get home from work.
Oh and I bought myself a new pair of jeans :) one size smaller, yeah me :)
Yeah YOU!!! I so hope you have a good night tonight with your man. You deserve it! L~
I feel so out of the loop. WTF is POAS. Based on Kansas\'s response I\'m guessing it has something to do with the possibility of being preggars but I can\'t get the acronym.
Hope you guys have a great night Kansas!
I couldn\'t figure POAS out either, so fill us in girlies! I\'m sorry Kansas, for the blahs! But grateful for you, and our discussion today! Thanks for helping me out today, in a big way! I love ya girl! You were my valentine today! lol
I was out of sorts, weepy, talked with my sis, and then my H. Not the best of days, but feeloing better now that it\'s almost 8:00 pm, guess I just needed to get it out today! Thanks, sweetie, for being there for me, once again! Now that is a true friend!
POAS is Pee On A Stick or at home PT. :)
I\'ve never been much for cards myself. I\'ve gotten them on occasion, but I guess they don\'t do a lot for me so I don\'t tend to give them. So no looking at V cards today.
I do want to thank you, Kansas, for your suggestion. Gabi loved having me all day today. We worked until just before 3 pm (if she were by herself, it would have been well after 6 when she got home) and we had a great lunch/supper and then took in the movie, which was pretty good overall. Then we went to the store. I bought her a rose and chocolates, and she bought me some wine. Now we\'re set.
I think just spending time together is one of the best presents you can get. She loved it.
Never been a big fan of V-Day, regardless of whether I was in love with someone on the day or not. It really is just another holiday created to make money for a couple of industries. And that is fine, if that keeps someone employed.
It is what you do and say the other 364 days of the year that make all the difference IMO. It is important to recognize milestones such as anniversaries and such, but really, they are just another day on the calendar. It is the effort that you put out each and every day of the year that means much more.
Try to forget what SHE did. IF he is truly committed to rebuilding, that will all fade in time. Fresh in both of your memories now, sure, but ultimately, if he wants to rebuild and is committed to regaining your trust, you will make your own special memories and figure out what is important to you in time.