Urgent Call from my Doc

So, when you get a call at 6:15 p.m. on a Friday night from you doctor who is at Disneyland on vacation with her family...you might think she has concerns.  LOL  She called to tell me that my labs from the miscarriage followup came back with a few concerns.  I had to go in twice and didn't know what specific labs she had ordered.  Apparently my first set showed a couple of results that were indicative of Lupus, so she ordered an "Anti-DNA test" which is another confirming type of test and it too indicated Lupus.  BUT, that does not mean I DEFINITELY have Lupus...although my grandmother died of it and my mom has it. So, my wonderful doc wants me to immediately get into Rheumatology for an urgent workup to see what is going on.
I am not worried...although it would at least be consistent with all the horrible stuff that has come our way that I would have such a diagnosis...lol  BUT, the ONLY thing I was worried about is...you guessed it...will this affect my ability to carry a baby to term now?!?  The Dr. Park said that it does increase chances of miscarriage, BUT the low dose aspirin approach CAN help quite a bit, and that would be the protocol we would take. 
She also called in an Rx for the Progesterone suppositories, but I didn't have a heart to tell her that my DH is NOT on board with her advice to TTC right now.  Another problem is that she told me tonight that she wants us to use an Ovulation Predictor for the Progesterone and baby aspirin...Well, my DH is TOTALLY opposed to using one of those!  AT most, he would want things to happen by chance...not us "helping" God along.  But, for now...nothing.  She'd be sad since she already gave her dire warning about the need for us to hurry.
I think it is so cool that she called on a Friday night...in the middle of a family vacation.  We have a huge group of OBGYN's and she could have just had another Dr. call me.  I feel really blessed that she is so very caring, wants me to get the Rheumatology workup and wants us to TTC right away...I also LOVE that she is working hard to make sure we don't lose another baby! 
So...mixed feelings.  If it wasn't for my DH's hesitation about TTC, I'd be over-the-moon with joy about the call...Oh..except that she thinks I have Lupus.  LOL  Forgot that minor detail...

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deleted_user
deleted_user

What a wonderful Dr. I would love to have an ob like that! I hope u do not have Lupus. I hope your dh changes his mind and gets on board with the baby dancing..Please keep us posted on your test and results
((hugs))
deleted_user
deleted_user

It\'s nice your doctor is so involved. Mine just trumps it up to PCOS and doesn\'t order tests (not that I ask either). I\'m sorry about the tests pointing to Lupus. On the one hand it would give you something \"reason\" for the m/c, but I really hope you don\'t have it. Take care.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Wow; she called from vacation! That is a wonderful Dr! Have you checked out fertilityfriend? It\'s just a website that charts for you, so eventually will predict your most fertile window. It really doesn\'t confirm the exact day of ov until after the fact, but at least you know if you had well timed sex at that point, & it really does help. All you would have to do is take your bbt (basal body temp) every morning, & monitor cervical fluid & other signs. I LOVE that site! You can join for free & it offers basic charting without access to the message boards, or you can subscribe for a yearly fee & get many more charting options, help, & access to the message boards. Maybe your dh would be ok w/ that as opposed to ovulation predictor kits since it\'s all natural?
Tryingtomakesense
Tryingtomakesense

I wish my DH would think fertilityfriend would be a good idea, but he specifically said he did not want any \"INTENTIONAL\" efforts to get pregnant...no cervical monitoring...no temperature taking...not timing sex with certain places in the cycle. What I hear from him is that he wants us to just casually do what we normally do..and if it results in pregnancy, great. BUT, the crummy thing is that he is doing everything to avoid even our normal sex life right now!! ARGH. He is making sure we don\'t do anything that would POSSIBLY lead to pregnancy, so it is clear where his feelings are. I am so frustrated and sad over this, but just praying for him. I know he is HEAVILY burdened.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Would you have to tell your DH about the ovulation tests? I know not good to lie but it is easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask permission. Or and probably a better approach is just tell DH that your doctor believes you have Lupus and this is the treatment she proposes and the ovulation kits are part of the protocol. I don\'t know I understand why he is concerned but you know God doesn\'t give us anything He doesn\'t believe we can\'t handle. Life is too short. I know I said give him time and space but putting such restrictions like he is really isn\'t fair either. I am so sorry you are going through this. Hoping and praying that you don\'t have Lupus and that DH somehow begins to see that life will go on and he will find another job. XO :)