Update on previous post...
Oh god! This just get's worse!!!I spoke to my therapist briefly today (proper appointment is tomorrow) and the procedure is they will have to contact my CMHT who will then have to 'assess' my family/home situation and go from there. BUT what has now scared me EVEN MORE than just my Mum finding out about all this, is that when the CMHT have done their assessment, they will then see what 'action' they think needs to be taken:1. They may say ok the situation is fine and leave us to get on with it in which case all this will have been for nothing.2. They may say someone needs to come and see me now and again to make sure everything is ok...anything from once a month to once a week3. They may be of the opinion that I can't LIVE HERE!? And they will need to get me out! (I know it wont ever come to this because my Mum isn't going to go ahead and let her bf moving in knowing this, but still. The fact that THIS is going to have to be even discussed between us is going to make her feel awful!)I can't believe this is happening to me! It's one bloody thing after another. What is worse is I've asked my Mum AGAIN if I can schedule our family therapy session for next week (as suggested AGAIN by my therapist today) so this can be talked about. She hasn't been since a while before christmas now, she keeps making excuses. But once again...she's said no not yet. This is all going so fucking wrong!
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I read through the last few posts and I am so sorry that you are going through all that. I hope that everything works out and that your Mom is able to understand. *hugs*
i am sorry you are going threw this. i do not know if you have a relation with a power greater then yoursellf and if you do i would suggest that you pray and turn everything over to this power and have faith that things will turn out exactly the way theya re suppose to and that is all going to be for the best no matter what way it all turns out. love ya and i am praying it all works out for you.....
everything happens for a reason......take a deep breathe and realize this
I really wish I knew what I could say to help you feel better about the situation...but honestly, I\'m just not sure what\'s actually going on for you. Are you feeling awful because you\'re afraid your mom is going to feel bad about herself and blame you and be mad at you?
Were you able to let your therapist know what you were worried about and how you were feeling about the situation? If so, what did she say?
Basically, I just want to make sure you know that none of this is your fault at all.
I think government stuff like this is usually hard to deal with and stresses most people out. When my family has to deal with stuff like this that they make you go through, it\'s always such an extra burden.
I hope that both you and your mom know that government rules are not personally directed at you and don\'t say anything about you or your mom as actual people - they are just rules and forms that people have to do.
Have you been able to discuss this with your mom at all? You don\'t have to tell her EVERYTHING, just that there are some forms the people will have to fill out, and there\'s a rule that they have to check out the house, and that you all need to sort of act a certain way while they\'re there so that it won\'t cause any trouble for your family, etc. Would that help at all?
Maybe if there\'s something she asks about that you don\'t want to tell her like \"why are they doing this?\" you could just say you don\'t know?
I am confused as to why your therapist hasen\'t seemed to tell you how to deal with this situation, what to think of it, how to deal with your feelings about it, or how to go about dealing with your mom and stuff.
Please keep letting us know what\'s going on!
Please try not to worry if these people are interveening then you mum must understand how concerning things are. I hope this makes sense im just basing it on info from last few journals. Everything will work out in the end like missy said; it all just seems so uncertain and up in the air at the moment. Please know that i am here if you need to chat. xx