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Today is okay I guess. I am talking to a friend of mine and he I guess is developing a crush on me saids nice things and does nice things,but I must be broken . I just feel uncomfortable when people are not the usal slimy dirty selves they usally are when I am talking to people online or off. I mean he saids that, he saids this all nice things,but i just ..it is hard to explain but I recoil from it like I've seen a snake in the grass{I hate snakes} does that mean I am beyond repair. The nicer he is the more I am like ughh so uncomfortble. It is nice not sleazy or nothing like that. it is very swet,thoughtful and charming,but makes me so uncomfortable. am I like so broken that only people who talk bad act bad and treat me bad is what I respond to?? I just don't know any more if I am repairable if I recoil from nice things people say to me it is so weird.
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Big hug Jade..... There has to be some chemistry I think to be interested in someone.... Are you able to get into therapy sweetie or a therapeutic group
There are groups for abuse on here and also an Anxiety Board that is good and active.... Maybe just take some time to get to know this person better.... xo
Hugs good luck
I don't know the backstory but I think recognizing the problem is a good first step. The question is why do you respond to people who treat you badly and why do you run from people that try to bring good to your life. I don't think you're broken beyond repair. You're here and you're talking about it. You just have an issue that needs to be addressed. I'm with SunCloud, you should to look into getting a therapist to help. JMO.
I'm not convinced that you like this guy that is giving you attention. Obviously he's into you and a good guy being into you is not a bad thing. Are you attracted to him? It may just be you're not into him and feel uncomfortable with his advances. If you're into him, maybe tell him you need to go slower with your relationship. Nothing wrong with going slow. The right guy will understand.
This guy is nice enough, and he is okay. I just don't think I trust him all to much. it is weird now he wants me to email his daughter and be like a friend to her. a ten year old can you sense all the red flags around that . I certainly do. and he keeps asking me. I put if off. I think if any one suggested I talk to their kid their daughter because she misses her mom is just beyond bizarre. I may be broke beyond repair and I may need a therapist like super bad because when he mentions love and commitment, and life time together I want to run as far away as possible the whole talking of love really makes my skin crawl. yes I am that bad off. I am trying to get a therapist but it is so expensive 65,00 dollars a session.. still looking though. Yesterday he called me my wife I almost deleted our whole conversation I mean seriously it has only been a month. I think he was peeved when I still refuse to e mail his ten year old daughter who does that? I never been in such a weird situation . I don't think I will be talking to him as much as I have just feel uncomfortable you know . Thank you for listening I so appreciate that. I think I needed to have a sounding board and this man I don't think can be trusted, it may be me or it may be him going overboard. Only time will tell . and some space right.