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Feelings have been at a crossroad all day. I'm not too sure i really want to fight much for this anymore. It goes day to day. Saturday I was a basketcase bawling over this seperation and today being 2 days later i'm feeling like if he filed today i'd be ok. I try to weigh out the good and the bad and thinking of how much he's changed since he started the job he's been at since 2006....our marriage was beautiful when we worked together and we were best friends. But since he went to his other job 5 years ago he found a new group of "friends" that at one time in our life he'd never be anything like. So it's almost like if he wants to loose the love of his life he's had for 15 years for these F@#kn douche bags he's only known for 4 years, then maybe he should......he can start fighting for me now....I think i've done it long enough and I've NEVER put anyone else before him. Has anyone else gone through the motions from one day to the next like i am?
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This is how it goes, as a roller coaster . Seems so similar w my wife about 2 months ago she was asking me to work thing out so I told him yes but I had some conditions which were , want you home w the kids right after work, turn off yr FB and stop hanging out w the friends that you lefte
For, she agreed on everything except on the friends so it seems that the friends are a top priority for her . My satisfaction is that friends will only be around for
So long and then?
Be strong, follow yr heart and
Also follow what makes sense
facebook is one thing that will honestly rip apart a marriage....he was so immature to put all our business out there...i recenlty deleted mine and joined here where no one knows me
Yes FB is what got it all started, I have one but all I have there is my family and a few close friends.
I don\'t understand how can friends be more important than a marriage and family? She said that her friends have been there for her when for 17 I have been there for her even when she almost died after a surgery I was the only one there taking care of her . Can\'t wrap my head around that concept
Sorry you\'re going through such a rough time. You are normal with the rollercoaster emotions, but they don\'t last forever. Hang in there! As much as we don\'t like to let go of the good from the past, at some point you\'ll realize that if he doesn\'t change back to the way he was, if he really cares about them more than you, you\'re really better off without him.
I\'m praying for you. God bless you.
i know exactly how you feel. i am having a good day today. you know one of the f-u days i got this, but last night i was feeling like i couldn\'t take another breath without him. guess we just have to go with the flow and see what happens moment to moment. but everyone tells me that if i keep up no contact that the good moments will get longer and the bad moments shorter. i really think they are right and that i can do this.
big hugs to you!
thanks memory, it is true and it starts with us, being independent and strong. and what I am also doing right now is when he\'s present, I make it seem like nothing is bothering me (which as of today nothing really is because i am being the more mature and stronger of the 2 of us)...as long as i keep this going on, it should make him think and ponder why I\'m handling things so well that it might even scare or worry him.....sometimes they see us as basket cases over them and then take it for granted to do what they want because \"we\'re not going anywhere\" but when we get our life together and they realise that we CAN make it WITHOUT THEM...i think they monitor themselves much more carefully and may change their minds about what is is they\'re doing to us.....then realise they don\'t want to loose such a prise to another man :)