ugh. worried.
worried that she is going to forget about me. im praying so hard that one day she will want to be a regular friend that doesn't have as many boundaries as her and i have that she likes to have on our friendship. its just hard cuz if i bring any of this up to her she will get mad at me cuz thats what happened before when i brought it up to her. but she tells me every so often that she really really loves me but why do you want to have so many boundaries like i mean alot if she loves me this much????? im confused.
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are u o.k. ? do u need to talk ?
maybe its about her... Some people just feel comfortable with some walls around themselves, if u love her as well and want her to be happy then let her be comfortable... Its really not about u, cause u sound as a great friend urself :)
When there is true love and friendship....there is no boundaries....except one....do no harm.
Sweetie.....let your self be free....and not in chains of another....sometimes....it will free them as well.....and both of you will be happier....and be ready for the next step.....
Be the best of YOU......let them be, THEM.....
she did reasure me that she still loves and cares about me. and im thankful for that. thank you friends for always being here for me on here. :)
I assume that this is a long-distance relationship? From my own experience with LDR\'s, I can tell you that they do not work. You cannot establish the level of trust and intimacy necessary to make virtual relationships work. There will always be doubts, distrust, and worry to overcome. Even then, what is the best you can hope for? What good is a relationship if you cannot be physically connected to the other person? Virtual relationships are strange, hollow affairs.
I was in such a relationship as this once. And the other person was much like the woman you describe. She demanded boundaries, her moods ran hot-and-cold, and she always had to be the one in control, always the one to call the shots. As it turned out, she was having a physical affair with someone else which, of course, explained the need for boundaries.
There are only two alternatives with these sort of relationships. You either move the relationship to the next level by getting together offline. Or you let the relationship die a slow death.
If you are really serious about this other person, you will have to be the one to make this work. Which means, you will have to put your cards on the table and holler \"call\". You will have to meet up and talk through these issues. If she refuses to meet you in person, then you will know that this is not real.
You have to move from the virtual to the physical, but I\'ve said enough now and I\'m sure you may have some fear and hesitation to try this. Are you willing to try this?